Listening attentively

22 Feb 2017

We just listen to what we want to hear. If what we’re being told doesn’t concur with our own thoughts, beliefs or how we see our lives, we tend to shut off. When it comes to others, the same principle may apply, if they’re also that way inclined.

We listen to reply, because it would be rude not to, but we don’t listen to think or understand. We tend to work off our own understanding instead. If we’re struggling, or it’s something we want to hear, another person’s opinion is something we might use, but generally we tend to ignore what other people say and instead go on to form our own opinions.

As children, we have no option but to listen. In my own case, I listened enough to know that I didn’t agree with others’ opinions. Listening taught me how to do things differently, how to do things for myself.  Listening taught me how to deal with my issues in a way that allowed me to support a different outcome.

I didn’t close my mind to what others said, I simply found a different way to think that worked better for me. It also depends on a person’s personality too. Some of us automatically open up to other people’s opinions and advice and some of us don’t, but perhaps that depends on the approach of the person handing out the advice.

Things become easier when we listen, primarily because we’re opening our mind to new potential possibilities, which not only helps us with personal growth, but in our lives too.

It’s important and we should want to listen attentively rather than skim people’s words, it shows we’re interested and it allows us to embrace new thoughts and ideas and learn about change in the process.

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  1. Brad 23. Feb, 2017 at 3:23 pm #

    I agree, listening properly is a real skill, which most of us simply don’t have. None of us know so much we can’t learn from others and that starts with listening.

    • Ilana 23. Feb, 2017 at 3:33 pm #

      Agreed. We all have more to learn and will continue to do so until the day we die. We never stop learning, so we should never stop listening.

      We must become more adept at making sure we’re a little more skilful at it.

  2. Tim 23. Feb, 2017 at 7:43 pm #

    Language is not always verbal, which means we sometimes listen to only half of what is said.

    There maybe more information on the other side of the tongue.

    • Ilana 23. Feb, 2017 at 8:59 pm #

      Thanks Tim. Yes, our body language talks as does our unconscious mind.

      I believe you’re right, there may be more information on the other side of our tongues, as long as we’re willing to speak up of course.

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