Morality & education

Morality through education would be fine if it happened, but sadly we don’t learn about morals in school. But even if we were to learn morality in the classroom, it’s a parent’s job to teach us what’s right and wrong. The more moral we are, the more we will do right by family, in society and by each other too.

Teaching morals is not only a parental concern and responsibility, but should also be a common responsibility. Since children spend so much time in school, it’s important that schools reinforce the morals children are taught by their parents; assuming of course, parents are teaching their children morals.

Schools sadly fail to raise awareness on compassion, tolerance and empathy as well as other initiatives, including how to communicate and practice such values in everyday life. Schools tend to teach facts and figures, but fail to encompass any real method of learning that help a student take their first steps into the world.

I remember being told to say please and thank when I was a child. But where I was left to emotionally fend for myself, I would work on my own moral compass. Everything you read in my blogs are how I choose to communicate my thoughts, feelings and experiences.

Children should be taught morality through their parents first and then reinforced through education, in a way that allows them to think for themselves. Schools sadly don’t have the time or resources, to continually re-evaluate morality, but it’s easy to see why these morality is crucial in everyday life.


10 Sep, 2017

6 thoughts on “Morality & education

  1. Yes, wouldn’t it be great if they had something like a ‘Life Skills 101’ class in schools? I just made the connection as to why I screwed up so much in life, mostly because I wasn’t shown how to develop a good moral compass.

    My mother was always giving her ‘holy Roller’ speech in public, while living in a perverted manner at home, which we were subjected to constantly.

    My Dad was pretty oblivious to a lot other than his alcohol and keeping my mother happy, which seemed to be an impossible task. Most of the morality I learned was from comic books and stories about King Arthur, which I escaped into trying to avoid the horrors at home, which didn’t always work.

    Parents should be the ones teaching their kids these values, but from what I can tell, they’re expecting the schools to do their job, but then flip out when they try to teach them something they don’t approve of.

    It would be great if they actually had classes like the DBT class I have been taking, which I assumed was only for people with BPD but it has a lot more to do with actual life skills. We skipped over those lessons, seeing as my parents obviously didn’t have a lot of them and we went to so many different schools that we didn’t have a chance to pick any up there either.

    It’s no wonder we went so far off the rails, considering the environments we were exposed to, with parents who really didn’t seem to have a clue as to what they were doing most of the time.

    Now I really get how it is that I became the monster that I did, since I was always so conflicted and didn’t know anything different. Maybe if they would have had more classes like this in school, we would better know how to get along with ourselves and each other and the world would be a much better place.

    1. I’m not sure I agree you are Randy. You’re no more of a monster than me and never saw myself as one. Just misunderstood.

      As you’ve said yourself, you had issues you were struggling with that your mum ignored in the same way I did, but having issues doesn’t make us a monster. As a rule, children tend to ‘fly off the handle’ where they’re misunderstood and need help. It was clear we both needed the help.

      In my own case, underneath the anger, I was kind and that showed through periodically. My father didn’t say a lot about his children, but near to his passing, he did say that about me to someone I am close.

      And I agree with that schools need to do more. They rely on the parents and sadly where that doesn’t happen, schools fall short of those disciplines.

      I think you’re right, we need to get along with ourselves first and then each other, in that order.

  2. Teaching our children morals must be at home and must continue from home. We should be able to look to our parents as role models throughout our lives and especially in the formative years.

    Parents should be the constant and visible models of positive moral behaviour, who are later associated with their child’s character development.

    Unfortunately, so many just don’t care about this, aren’t equipped to behave like this or don’t exhibit sufficient morals themselves. As Randy says its easier to let someone else do this and many rely on teachers. But to me that is just lazy and irresponsible.

    1. You’re absolutely right on both scores. We should be able to look to our parents’ as role models, we need to be able to, but sadly many of us can’t.

      I have seen first hand how easy it is to fall into the trap of doing nothing and still expecting children to fall into line.

      For those parents, who don’t discipline, or don’t parent they’re lucky if their children don’t go off the rails; and by that I mean, generally behaving in a way that is not acceptable, especially dishonestly or illegally.

      And as you rightly say: ‘parents should be the constant and visible models of positive moral behaviour, who are later associated with their child’s character development.’

      I feel this is slightly lacking in today’s society.

  3. Schools begin nowhere and end nowhere when it comes to morality, as it teaches nothing, over and over again in terms of right and wrong.

    This is society’s problem, not just the parents in my view. Of course, if schools did teach morality, some idiot would bring their God into it.

    1. Yes quite. Sadly you’re right. I believe you’re right on both scores. It’s a parent’s duty as well as a schools duty to continue its teaching; particularly as children are in school 5 days a week.

      You’ve highlighted a good point in your second paragraph. Perhaps that’s another reason why schools don’t teach morality. God’s bound to come into it somewhere, as part of the morality teaching.

      Our moral compass isn’t about God, our moral compass is about values attached to our life and lifestyle.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *