Being pessimistic not only infringes on our own lives, but that of our partners, family and friends.
How being pessimistic makes us feel
Overwhelmed and out of control, useless and incompetent, sad and alone, invisible and ignored, misunderstood, self-pitying and abandonment, an outcast, a loser and withdrawn, worthless and empty inside
If you are pessimistic
Living with pessimism is a challenge but not one that can’t be overcome, pessimism although it can interfere with intimacy in a relationship, it can be managed through the right support mechanisms, you have a right and deserve to find happiness within yourself and your life, so that you can be successful at what you choose to do.
It is counter-productive hiding behind your personality. No-one is born the way, you live your life, you can change your belief system, learning to see ‘your glass half full’ will improve your physical, emotional and spiritual life.
A lot of what we play out in our lives is what we have seen in our formative years. It’s also safe to assume that ‘parental pessimism’ is something we learn from our parents, but with willpower, understanding and determination I believe we can start to be more optimistic.
It is important to understand how we are, so that we can learn where changes need to be made.