Personal boundaries are what we create to identify what is reasonable and safe, what we will allow. When it comes to our boundaries, most of us will have a sense of right and wrong, what’s deemed appropriate and what isn’t, around our own personal space.
There are individuals of course who just don’t seem to care, or in some cases know or understand. When it comes to boundaries, it’s important how others behave towards us and how we respond back.
There are people who move boundaries to suit themselves and then inflict their boundaries on others, expecting those others to conform to what they want, rather than what others want.
Since boundaries are made up of own beliefs, attitudes and past experiences, it’s only right that others abide by what we want, in effect our rules. Unfortunately, when someone oversteps the mark, they have chosen to ignore any boundaries.
Those people are usually controlling and manipulative and will go through life avoiding responsibility. They usually think the world revolves around them, whilst expecting others to conform to their rules.
They may seem awkward and aloof and show narcissist tendencies, fuelled by an inflated sense of self. They may also be unpredictable. One day they’ll say one thing and the next day will change their minds, with little or no recollection of what they’ve previously said.
Boundaries should always be part of a healthy relationship, but instead they’re often used as a manipulation tool to extract what those people want.