My values

Everything I write in my Diary, on the site, pays homage to my emotional and physical wellbeing in one way or another.

There are many aspects to our emotional wellbeing that are linked and will carry a different thought process. I love to write about things that mean something to us. Like the values placed upon us as individuals and how those values play out in our lives.

When I was a little girl, I lived in a modest house, my parents weren’t rich and as far as I knew they weren’t poor either, but I always had it instilled in me that to buy something I had to earn it first. I never asked for anything, probably because I knew better, but that wasn’t a bad thing because it taught me about values and rather than value materialistic things that would make me happy for an hour, it meant I had to find my happiness elsewhere.

I never understood fully what my parent’s individual values were. I’m not sure you do as a child, or not wittingly. I knew to my mum family was important, but that she didn’t know how to nurture them. People, particularly family need to be nurtured; through a mutual understanding and respect without infringing on each other’s privacy and although we want that to happen, we may not always get it right.

I did take my own values very seriously and given the fact that I was dealing with Cerebral Palsy, I saw the world from a completely different angle. From an early age, I began to hone in on the importance of people and reaching out in the hope that I would have support with what I had to deal with.

I always aimed to please, always aiming for acceptance. Unfortunately for me, my physical and emotional problems were constantly being overlooked. I have held on to the same values for years and still do. Each of my blogs carries a value, a message. The old-fashioned values of caring and making a difference is what I care about and is always something I will continue to do.

Looking after and making sure my own family grow with confidence and are happy and content is also important to me, that they make a difference in their lives, however they choose to make that difference.


21 Jan, 2011

6 thoughts on “My values

  1. I’ve never really thought about my values. But I have some. Mainly caring about others especially my family. Family mean a lot to me and I thank my parents for instilling this value in me.

    Growing up was fun for me even though I had medical problems, until I turned into a teenager then all the problems set in, but I still had my family and sometimes that made a big difference.

    I never really knew what values my parents held but they were and are good people. My dad would do anything for others and my mom still does anything for others especially for my daughter. She treats her like her own child and that’s helped me a little with her.

    But it has also caused some problems. My mother makes sure I know she is my daughter especially when she has temper tantrums and in those impossible moods! I try to instill the values I grew up with into my daughter.

    Ever since her father died she has had this thing with taking care of animals especially dogs. She has taken in 3 dogs that were abandoned on the side of the road and takes very good care of them. I just wish she would treat people the same way. It’s not that she doesn’t treat others well it’s just different.

    Like a blank stare when made aware of others problems. But she is getting a lot better as she is growing up. She is now 22 years old and is a lot different than a few years ago. The temper tantrums are much less and she really does care about members of her family.

    Sorry to get off topic a little, but anyway values are important to me and caring for others is still the biggest value instilled in me from my parents.

    1. I think of course we all have values instilled in us from childhood, but when you and I were growing up, values were there, but weren’t altogether understood.

      What we do with our children and what we try to instill in them doesn’t always reflect our hard work.

      I think some children have the ability to take on values more than others. We have to remember that there are so many other things to take into consideration. We have peer pressure, our parents, schooling and other outside influences that we have to compete with. Then we have our own relationships with our spouses.

      Children see things, take in what goes on around them, but don’t always hold on to our values and what we teach them.

  2. I agree with you. If you work for the money you earn, then what you buy means more because you worked for it.

    I was blessed with parents who started with very little but worked hard to get everything they needed. I am thankfully not a materialistic person. People and relationships mean much more to me than material things.

    Life can be very lonely without friends.

  3. I’ve had to take a look at my values as of late to really understand what is important to me!

    I was raised not really even knowing what values were, so it has been very hard to learn at this age. I’ve just always pleased people, so much so that my values were so often set aside for what other people valued.

    I’m just praying that I can learn what my values really are and follow my own path for a change.

    1. Randy I believe you can. I was as you were many years ago. There is a balance between pleasing others and pleasing yourself, but learning that will come in time.

      You just have to make the first move.

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