Negative self-talk

When I was little, I used to negative self-talk so much I worried those bad things would really happen. The negative self-talk was always there, it seemed to follow me like a shadow. If someone I knew had cancer, I thought I would get it too.

What I didn’t realise was that when we grow up with so much negativity around us, negative self-talk becomes our daily dialogue. I remember getting ready to go on holiday and not being able to sleep for weeks beforehand, not because I was excited but because I was sure the plane was going to crash.

Negative self-talk isn’t great, and we must find ways to talk ourselves out of it, but our realities are often very different from what we talk ourselves into. The universe is aware of that. I went on holiday, I didn’t get cancer and the plane didn’t crash.

We become fearful of many things, primarily things we have no control over those things. It’s in those negative times that we will talk ourselves into things. We’re not born that way. Negativity will always feed into our psyche, that we cannot always change until we learn how to.


14 Jan, 2011

6 thoughts on “Negative self-talk

  1. I had to deal and do still deal with self negative comments that I say to myself, especially when I am feeling down on my life. Lately because I have been ill, I have been doing that a lot.

    I will hopefully feel better after my operation. I have to remind myself that this is just temporary and will not last forever.

    1. Randy, negative self-talk is normally temporary. As you rightly say it comes at a time when we’re down on ourselves. I know it will pass for you. Feel better soon.

  2. I have to deal a lot with negative self-talk. Even now I can catch myself falling into that pitfall, but it becomes something really hard to break. I think that mine has to do a lot with upbringing too.

    Perhaps you are on to something there. Self-esteem and confidence and negative thoughts are all things that I’m trying to work on, but it definitely doesn’t come easy for sure.

    1. I agree with you totally LeAnna. It took me many years to overcome negative thoughts. It’s a pattern we fall into through our upbringing and personal self-worth; but I believe it is something to be changed, we just need to have the tools to do it. Take care.

  3. I did it as a child and still do. Though now I talk myself into thinking positive thoughts instead of dwelling on the negative. I think it’s because of lack of self-esteem all my life and bad experiences as a child.

    1. Yes that’s exactly what it’s from Lisa. I hope that one day you manage to turn it around completely. Thanks for posting.

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