Negative self-talk cont.d

As a continuation from my last blog on negative self-talk, I believe without the confidence and self-esteem, it’s very easy to let negative self-talk in.

The following tips may help us become aware:

  • Do we pull ourselves down constantly; particularly when someone pays us a compliment?
  • Do we see ourselves as being intelligent?
  • Do we think highly or even like ourselves?
  • Are we happy with all that we have achieved?
  • Are we repeating negative patterns so everything we see in our life is negative?
  • We need to begin to look at and take everything out of our lives that we perceive as negative.

Negative self-talk stems from what we’re told as a child. It’s that little voice in our head that tells us what we are. We’re labelled. We may have done things that we’re spiteful as a child, but instead of those things being referred to as spiteful, we told ‘we’re spiteful,’ instead.

After a while what we’re told begins to stick. We believe we are all the things we’re told and as we approach adulthood, we continue to feed off those messages that bring us down and belittle us. All that we hear sews the seed of our negative self-talk.

If we have no support, ignored or criticised, we will begin to criticise ourselves. This is the most common cause of negative self-talk. I also believe that once we begin to change the way we perceive ourselves, we will begin to see the world in a more positive light.

Using Affirmations or talking to a Counsellor and re-addressing some of those negative thoughts will help change those negative thoughts into positive ones.


15 Jan, 2011

4 thoughts on “Negative self-talk cont.d

  1. I agree. I think as children it is easier for us to pick up negativity, rather than positivity and this then sets the stage for us in later life, making any changes we need to make all the more difficult.

    As ever, your suggestions are all really useful.

  2. I truly believe what you’re saying here.

    As a teenager I was lead to believe I was lazy and incompetent. Not just by being told this, but by the actions and of what was not said, whilst my sister got all the praise and support as far as her future was concerned. I made B’s, C’s and D’s and got no comments like you can do better or you can do this, you’re smart enough. I got no comments at all.

    Sometimes the things that are not said are the worset I didn’t even get help going to college except them paying my tuition when I finally decided what I wanted to do. I received no guidance. It’s no wonder I went to college, started in several different programs because I couldn’t figure out what I wanted to do.

    I doubted myself on everything and wasted several years and a bunch of money.

    1. Lisa this is a part of your upbringing by your parents I didn’t know of. I believe that this has shaped your self-confidence; self-esteem and other things that you’ve had to deal with… and although there may have been other parts of your childhood that were better; schooling and the way our parents guide us through that, shapes our lives completely.

      That said, although all of this has long gone, you can change a lot of this now. As adults we have choices for ourselves to make, over and above that of our parents. We don’t have to continue the pattern. I’m here for you.

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