When we live with something and feel no resentment to that thing, we know we have come through the healing process.
That’s not to say we still won’t have difficult days, particularly when we’re stressed, but any feelings we have will only then be temporary. I believe we will always find a genuine understanding of that process, but we must continue to make conscious choices around our understanding.
We must learn to hold on, to embrace the happy memories and let go of the painful memories that make us feel sad. We need to understand why someone acts in the way they do to understand their choices around our experiences.
Of course, it takes more effort to consciously work through the process, but it’s worth it of course, in the longer term, if it puts us in a better emotional space.