We’re not off the hook because we avoid responsibility for our actions towards others, or choose to live in denial.
By us choosing to right a wrong says something about us and does more for us than choosing to blank out our experiences as if those experiences didn’t happen, or they don’t exist. The truth is that we can never change what we’ve said or done, but we can make another person’s life better, by being open and honest about those things.
Coming to understand my thoughts and feelings, unravelling my experiences through my blogs has helped me see a clearer picture of how things we’re for me in my formative years. How easy it is for others to impart their guilt on us, for us to begin to think that somehow, we’re to blame.
As we carry the guilt, we’re made to believe that we’re to blame that we are in fact responsible. It’s such a terrible misconception, and one which carries us throughout our adult life, until we change our thinking. We’re not responsible for other people’s deeds, even if other people don’t accept they are responsible.
The sad reality of course, is that if we can never admit what we’ve done, nothing will ever change. Blocking things out as if those things didn’t happen, doesn’t make it so, or make those things any less untrue.