Starting from a very young age, we develop an identity that is made up of our beliefs and how we view ourselves.
But where we fail to own or admit to our mistakes, we end up pointing the finger at ourselves, particularly as people have already seen through our behaviour. We shirk responsibility for the very things we’re supposed to be responsible for.
Perhaps it’s got something to do with there being less accountability in society and the fact that individually, we’ve become less accountable. Being less accountable means we’re less likely to own up to our mistakes, or how we really are. We never seem to be able to admit that yes we made a mistake and perhaps we could have handled things better.
A lot of how we are stems from childhood. That everything we learn in childhood we take into our adult lives. When a child fails to say sorry it’s because their bad behaviour is often being ignored, they’re not being brought to task by their parents.
As each generation passes, the disciplines that help us own up to how we are get watered down. The more at peace we are, the more likely we are to own up to our responsibilities and admit that yes we made a mistake.
Life would certainly be much sweeter and easier if we did. There would be less room for the mandatory disagreements, fall outs and those inevitable pregnant pauses over the mistakes we make that we don’t own up to.