Our personal boundaries are the boundaries we incorporate and work our lives around. It’s the boundaries we create for ourselves that we expect others to honour.
Do we have personal boundaries and if we do, do others abide by them or are they simply ignored?
We do have boundaries, but not many people will abide by them and will simply choose to ignore them. Boundaries are there to tell others what they can and can’t expect from us and what we expect from them. Personal boundaries that protect us from people who are demanding, being too pushy, controlling and abusive.
There are several areas where boundaries apply. The most common of boundaries are:
Physical boundaries apply to our personal space, our bodies and our privacy.
Our emotional boundaries are the boundaries we use to separate our responsibility and our emotions from another person’s boundaries. Emotional boundaries are healthy boundaries that protect us from feeling guilty for another person’s problems, or negative feelings. Those boundaries also help us negate and stop us from taking other people’s comments personally.
Healthy emotional boundaries require clear internal boundaries, internal boundaries that involve our own feelings and responsibilities to ourselves and other people.
Mental boundaries apply to our opinions, values and thoughts. Our mental boundaries aren’t clear enough if we are gullible and easily suggestible. If we find it hard to hold on to our opinions or are easily coerced or swayed into another person’s thinking, our mental boundaries are weak. There is also suggestion that if we are argumentative or defensive, we may also have weak boundaries.
Other boundaries include sexual boundaries, which protect us from non-consenting sexual activity and touch, when, where and with whom. Spiritual boundaries relate to our beliefs that connect us to a higher power and also includes religion.
Boundaries are our rules. The hard part is making sure others don’t cross them.