How many of us are victims because we don’t know how to change being one? For many years although I didn’t equate being a victim, I believe that is what I was. Hiding behind my Cerebral Palsy made me a victim. ‘The term victim is used to describe someone who suffers from a destructive or injurious action,’ but I believe there are more explanations than the actual meaning.
Being a victim means someone else is calling the shots on what we do, but being a victim may not always equate to injury or abuse. As a victim we may often stagnate, feel sorry for ourselves. We can be a victim of circumstance, a victim of our own success, a victim of childhood, a victim of the credit crunch, anything that changes the way we were to the way we are now.
When we make excuses, we play the victim card, for example, ‘I would work harder if I was given a raise,’ or ‘I’m stingy with money because my family made me like that.’ We tend to define our roles and stay with those roles, but where some of us will break free of the stigma attached to those roles, others will stay in those roles and continue to play the victim card.
We don’t equate being a victim and I am sure for many of us we don’t even know we’re doing it. When we continue to blame others, we are the victim.
Thinking the victim
This type of thought is normally associated with frustration and hopelessness. We often tell ourselves we can’t do anything about our situation, but we can. We can change anything we set our minds to, we need to recognise the need for change and the tools to do it with.