It’s a parent’s job to protect, not scar us. From experience, but where some parents set out to protect their children, they may end up scarring them instead.
Crossed words, raised voices, strong undercurrents and undertones all create emotional scarring, particularly if undercurrents and undertones are continually being used. We use sarcasm, we lash out, use words that attack, undermine, pull downs, unkind comments, being neglectful and the patterns continue.
Scars run deep, but for some children they run deeper. Depending on how severely a child will suffer, depends on what the traumatic, emotional event holds or means for that child. Our tone, how we speak is often a reflection of past experiences. Perhaps we need to think about that first.
Sadly, we tend to speak first, then think later, by which time it’s often too late. As parents, we must make ourselves aware of how we communicate with children early on, because it is in the early years where emotional scarring begins. If children have emotional scarring in their childhood, they will carry it into their adult years.
In those circumstances, it’s important the child focuses their attentions instead on developing self-love and self-confidence. It’s important for the child to love and validate themselves, instead of trying to attempt to win their parents love, or vie for their attention, because that will never work.
Today’s blog is dedicated to Erin Moran.