Questions & clarification

Asking questions for us to understand, gives us clarity. It is the simplest way of learning and its effective too. It’s also the best way for us to gain deeper insights. Questions inform, inspire, they encourage discussion, as well as give rise to healthy debate amongst friends and family.

Even though I didn’t know what was wrong with me, innately I knew that without asking questions, I’d be locked away in my own little world. But emotionally locking ourselves away permanently doesn’t help. We still have to be able to function.

I also remember the time when my father was told he had Lymphoma and he chose the chemotherapy route that I wasn’t convinced was right for him. It made me feel better when I got to ask questions, primarily because  I came away with more clarity and it felt easier.

Of course, asking questions may not always go down well. That really depends who is answering your questions and whether they’re happy for you to ask. That didn’t bother me, it was just important that I asked. I needed to take away the uncertainty, to settle my senses.

Since asking questions is the easiest way to absorb knowledge and it’s important we ask, why do some of stop asking questions, or why do some of us not even start? Sadly, some of us are lazy. if someone else can ask the questions for us, it means we don’t have to; others may think they know or assume the answers, so don’t bother to ask.

They usually remain steadfast in their assumptions as they continue to cling to their beliefs. Asking questions might bring about elements of uncertainty or show us in a poor light, if others don’t agree or think our questions are inappropriate.

I believe though asking question is a sign of strength and intelligence and allows us to follow through with conviction.


16 Nov, 2017

4 thoughts on “Questions & clarification

  1. We are entitled to ask questions and get answers, even though both might be difficult. I don’t believe the saying that ‘ignorance is bliss.’

    1. Thank you. Yes, we simply can’t grow without asking questions. But we have a right to ask and be listened to.

      I also don’t believe ignorance is bliss either, because sooner or later we will find out the things we thought we didn’t need to know about, or didn’t want to know but needed to know.

      In my case, sadly not knowing about Cerebral Palsy made me more irritable and annoyed. I grew up with anger issues around my disability. No, ignorance is certainly not bliss.

  2. Asking questions was kind of a waste of time when I was growing up, since my parents didn’t really seem to know a whole lot.

    It was either that or they just didn’t want to be bothered, which I always thought was 10 times worse; seeing as I knew they were deliberately choosing to ignore me.

    The only time they ever really seemed to pay attention to any of us, was when they wanted something from us like our birthday money or to parade us out like poor orphan children, to get sympathy from people, so they could get what they wanted.

    This is exactly why I have such a hard time asking for help or anything from other people, since they always made us feel like we had to beg for their attention, like a dancing monkey.

    I refuse to dance for anyone anymore.

    1. Thanks Randy. It takes us a while to get there but you’re absolutely right, you don’t have to dance for anyone anymore.

      I understand your experiences Randy, because my experiences were very similar. We learned very early on not to ask questions and if we did we weren’t listened to. We knew not to ask because there was no point.

      Then there’s your other experiences with your parents, your mum particularly. But I agree with you when you say ‘I refuse to dance for anyone anymore.’

      You don’t have to Randy. You get to call the shots.

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