Sadly, persistent feelings of anger will always continue to harbour resentment in us. But what are we really doing when we hold on to resentment and why is it in our best interest to let go?
As we begin to hold on to resentment, we begin to strengthen our identity and feelings as the one who was wronged, but in truth we’re unconsciously attempting to extract compassion and comfort from those who have failed us.
We’re telling others that our experiences and our suffering matters. That we matter, that others must listen, that they must change the way they deal with us. That we won’t allow others to treat us in this way. It’s a cry for help, although from the outset we will never allow ourselves to think that way and we don’t.
We would rather deny than admit we’re hurting. That we’ve been wronged. We would rather carry injustice than admit to others how we feel. We become bitter, embroiled, even twisted. We feel aggrieved, angry, object, or take exception and that continues to feed into our psyche.
But when we come to deal with resentment, we get to deal with the truth behind why we’re holding on to resentment. That we’re the ones that will continue to struggle, because those we’re holding resentment against, probably aren’t struggling at all.