Although some of us may have emotional wounds inflicted upon us by others, we owe it to ourselves to make sure we work on healing ourselves.
As a result of that, a lack of self-worth is what we may end up dealing with, which means bouts of self-pity and periods of self-indulgent pity over our circumstances, what’s been done to us, sadly creating the issues we have, none of which retrospectively we could do anything about.
If we could, we would have. But it mustn’t be an excuse for us not to change how we feel about ourselves. When pity starts to become our main focus, then we know it’s time to re-shift our focus and thoughts. There will be times when we go through life and experience self-pity, a change in circumstances usually dictates that.
Of course, there are circumstances where self-pity can be a self-soothing coping mechanism that assists us in accepting and changing our circumstances, but for some if we’re predisposed to existing negative behaviour patterns, self-pity can become a habit, a bad one at that.
Self-pity becoming a habit, can hamper any form of progress and may create self-destructive tendencies that are often hard to break, but introspection helps with that.