Sentiments behind the words

14 Mar 2017

I think we’d all get on better if we took the time to look at and understand the sentiments behind people’s words.

We spend our lives listening to people’s words, but never look behind their meaning or sentiments, why people say what they say, or what their words mean. We also need to understand the person, because understanding the person, means we understand the reasoning behind the meaning of their words.

I think if more of us were willing to understand people’s sentiments and why they say what they say, we wouldn’t jump to conclusions and therefore must deal with the mandatory fall outs. When we choose to look at the sentiments behind what people say, hopefully we will see sincerity, a refined sensibility. We may also see a person’s vulnerable side, where they’re influenced by their emotions, rather than by fact or reason.

People will always appeal to other people’s sentiments so long as they’re open and want to understand, but depending on where they are emotionally, they may not always be tolerant enough. Sentiment plays an important part in all communication. It should be the catalyst for all relationships, for how people choose to communicate, but sadly it’s somewhat lacking.

When we come to understand the tone behind someone’s words, we will come to understand the attitude, the opinion and the emotions expressed. It is important to understand the person behind the sentiment because that way, we’re also less likely to jump to the wrong conclusions about them, or for them to jump to the wrong conclusions about us.

For the future, I believe more of us must come to understand and capture the broad range of emotions expressed by each of us. Society and the world badly need it.

4 Responses to “Sentiments behind the words”

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  1. Brad 14. Mar, 2017 at 6:20 pm #

    It’s all about learning to listen properly and a willingness to communicate which few exhibit and yet our relationships would be the better for it, as you rightly said.

    • Ilana 14. Mar, 2017 at 6:33 pm #

      Thanks. Yes, we tend to take what we have and who we have it with for granted. We also communicate in a way that serves us, with our minds on other things.

      When we communicate we communicate to respond, rather than listen and understand people’s sentiments behind what they say and why they say it. We’d all benefit and they’d be less fallings out.

  2. Tim 14. Mar, 2017 at 8:02 pm #

    Certain communication methods trigger my senses, to either be on guard or relax; I guess midlife wisdom has much to do with that.

    • Ilana 14. Mar, 2017 at 8:27 pm #

      Thanks Tim. Yes, certain communications will always trigger certain senses, you’re right but I also think our experiences, particularly bad experiences teach us that.

      We tend to be on our guard with certain people depending on our experiences with them. I’ve had it in my life too.

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