3 Oct 2010
How can we stay positive through illness? It’s not impossible, but through time, patience and understanding I believe it can be achieved, but it is fundamental that we understand and do something about our day-to-day stressors.
Once we have identified our stressors, we can bring about change, so that we begin to cope with whatever we have to deal with, including illness. Ultimately we have to find ways to cope, not only to help ourselves, but also to help our family cope with what we deal with, so that they can help us back.
By talking about our physical problems, we unravel stress. By unraveling stress, we cope emotionally. Once we cope emotionally, we can go about making those changes. There’s no point writing down stressors and doing nothing about them!
Are your stressors financially driven? Would it be better moving into a smaller house so that financial worries are reduced? We have to ask ourselves the questions that will help us identify our stress. So now we know what they may be, we can go about changing them.
We need to look at ways of enhancing our lives. Perhaps take up a hobby; reduce work hours so that we spend more time with our family. Go for walks. How many of us equate our own mortality through an illness of a loved one? I know I did, but I also know that given what my life had been, I’m not sure I could have changed anything. I would have had to be someone else.
In my own case, when my mother was ill, I sat with her when a thought came into my mind that, that could be me in 15 to 20 years. At the time I didn’t know I had CP, but it opened my eyes to what I needed to do to find out about what I had been dealing with. I had been living with not knowing for 46 years, now it was time to change all of that. My mum’s illness helped me.