Taking life for granted

20 Mar 2017

We take people for granted, but we don’t stop there. If we were to think more about this, what about our lives, the things we have in our lives that we assume we will always have and yet those too are the things we take for granted?

Not only our lives, but what about our health, our jobs, having a house to live in, food on the table, being able to open our eyes to a new day. These are the very things we don’t stop to think about, the very things that happen, the very things we take for granted. Perhaps those are the things we should be thinking about.

Growing up with a disability made me more aware of the pitfalls; that nothing we have should be taken for granted. In our busy lives, we fail to look at the small-print, we fail to stop and think about what it is to experience life in the moment, in its simplicity. We live and think big, want only the best, exciting things, instead of learning to appreciate the little things.

It’s the little things that make up the bigger picture, we should savour those. Learn to live in the moment, to take the rough with the smooth, embrace the good things that happens to us and appreciate those without assuming or taking those for granted; to live presently without revisiting the past and always work on seeing and thinking about the more simple things.

Life is too short to wish we’d done things differently, but how easy would it be to look back and wish we’d literally taken the simple approach to our life, when the door’s firmly closed.

We’d all be and act differently and the world would be a different place for our children to grow up in.

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  1. Randy 20. Mar, 2017 at 12:41 pm #

    Yes, this is what has been dawning on me lately, especially considering how much of my life was wasted dwelling on yesterday and the things I didn’t do.

    This was how I grew up, seeing people always wishing they had done things differently; but not doing much to actually change things in the present. It’s no wonder that I followed the same pattern, by repeating the same mistakes over and over again.

    They seemed to believe that nothing they could do would change things, so they pretty much gave up and accepted whatever came their way. This is where the term, learned helplessness comes from, when you are forced to live that way for so long that you don’t really believe things could ever be different.

    ‘We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it,’ is the AA expression that comes to mind. It just means that we shouldn’t dwell on it but we can use our experiences to share with others so they can relate to us.

    We need to make the most of each day we have now. People lose sight of what’s really important like taking care of your children and making sure that they’re happy. I have realized this with my daughter turning 27 and seeing that she hasn’t had much of a life.

    She isn’t able to do a lot of things alone and has lived with someone who moves at sloth speed, so it’s no wonder she hasn’t been able to do much of anything. She didn’t focus on the things she could do mostly, because that wasn’t the way she was raised.

    The reality now is that I need to be doing a lot of the things I have been pushing for her to do. I need to focus on getting my own life in order, rather than always focusing on what’s best for everyone else.

    I have to literally work on getting reprogrammed, like someone who has been in a cult. My mother brainwashed me into a certain way of thinking that isn’t very productive now, but that can be changed. I do have to accept that I can’t change the past even if I don’t like that fact.

    I’m trying to remember to enjoy the little things like a bird chirping outside my window, or even a baby’s smile. The world is an okay place if we choose to look at it that way.

    • Ilana 20. Mar, 2017 at 3:39 pm #

      Thanks Randy. Yes you’re right. Reprogramming your thinking is important if you are going to change some of the old patterns.

      I believe you can. I also think your AA expression works well and is exactly what we have to do. Use the past as a stepping stone to move forward, to change what you need to do.

      Perhaps whilst you push your daughter through what she needs to do, you can also push yourself too, so that you do things together. I think sometimes it helps to have someone else there with us, if we struggle to work things through ourselves. It really depends on how much we have to change. It can seem daunting sometimes.

      I think that once you tackle some of those issues, you’ll see life completely differently. You’ll begin to recognise the birds, the flowers, the bees. Everything and anything we usually take for granted.

      We know they’re there, we just don’t consciously hone in on them.

  2. Tim 20. Mar, 2017 at 10:01 pm #

    This blog has lifted some serious weight from my heavy shoulders and simplified things, but then you always bring me back to reality.

    Fast forward a few years, I’ll take a seat in the nearest garden and breathe in everything I took for granted.

    • Ilana 20. Mar, 2017 at 10:11 pm #

      Awww thanks Tim. I’m never far from reality, but every now and again my blogs bring me further down.

      I’m pleased my blog helped you. It helps me to know it helps you.

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