As children we may sometimes become a victim, which if not dealt with can follow us into our adult years.
The following suggestions may help:
- This journey will be on going, but it will be a journey of new discoveries, a journey where you should begin to be responsible for your own actions, where you should begin to see yourself in a whole new light;
- Begin to write a daily list of all the good things you remember about situations or people you have been in contact with, who leave you with the feel-good factor. Keep adding to your list throughout the weeks. Hopefully this will encourage you to find a new appreciation of your world;
- Move away from your old thought patterns so that you no longer choose to blame someone else for how you are. Although decisions in our formative years are often made for us, there has to be a cut-off point where we need to be responsible for ourselves;
- Take back responsibility and start to introduce healthy boundaries and interactions instead. It’s important to try to avoid negative people and instead choose to interact with people who put a positive slant on your life. If you’re not keen to let go altogether, avoid meeting up with negative people when you’re not so self-assured and when you need more positive interaction;
- Spend more time with positive people, we will become more attuned to being more positive. We will no longer choose to spend time with those people who bring us down, or bring themselves down.
All that we believe in childhood is learned behaviour that we must unlearn and relearn again. It’s about our resolve to want to move forward in our lives.