The resolve

The following may be of help for those of us who struggle with being a victim.

Begin to write a daily list of all the good things you remember about situations or people you have been in contact with, who leave you with the feel-good factor. Keep adding to your list throughout the weeks. Hopefully this will encourage you to find a new appreciation of your world.

This journey will be on going, but it will be a journey of new discoveries, a journey where you will begin to be responsible for your own actions, where you will begin to see yourself in a whole new light.

Moving away from your old thought patterns, mean that you will no longer want to blame someone else for how you are. Although decisions in our formative years are often made for us, there comes a time in our lives when we should and need to be responsible for ourselves.

When we take back responsibility, we can start to introduce healthy boundaries and interactions instead. We must avoid negative people and interact with people who put a positive slant on our lives. If we’re not keen to let go altogether, avoid meeting up with negative people when we’re not so self-assured and when we need more positive interaction.

Once we begin to spend more time with positive people, we will become more attuned to being more positive. Our focus will shift a little so that we see ourselves as being positive and all that being positive brings. We will no longer choose to spend time with those people who bring us down, or bring themselves down.

All that we believe is learned behaviour that we must unlearn and relearn again. It can be done, because I have seen it done. I am part of that scenario.


24 Feb, 2011

10 thoughts on “The resolve

  1. I agree with you in that our attitude and the way we carry ourselves is greatly affected by those who surround us.

    In the past when I changed places of residence, I did notice a difference.

  2. I used to be negative a lot. I am now mostly positive.

    There are a few people in my family that are negative, but I can’t avoid them because they are my family and I love them dearly. I’ve tried to talk to them about being positive, but I think it goes in one ear and out the other. My mother is really bad about being negative and then when my sister and I tell her she is being negative she denies it.

    Of course my daughter is negative sometimes, but telling her is like talking to a brick wall, she doesn’t listen.

    I just have to stay upbeat and positive when I’m around them hoping it will rub off on them.

    1. Of course Lisa you know that will never happen!

      Negativity is a state of mind and very contagious. You’re more likely to come away as negative as your sister and mom are. Negativity attracts negativity as much as positivity attracts positivity! It’s not something you will be able to change.

  3. It does help to have the resolve to do what needs to be done.

    I’m trying to stay more positive and avoid the negative, which does help.

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