The following may be of help for those of us who struggle with being a victim.
Begin to write a daily list of all the good things you remember about situations or people you have been in contact with, who leave you with the feel-good factor. Keep adding to your list throughout the weeks. Hopefully this will encourage you to find a new appreciation of your world.
This journey will be on going, but it will be a journey of new discoveries, a journey where you will begin to be responsible for your own actions, where you will begin to see yourself in a whole new light.
Moving away from your old thought patterns, mean that you will no longer want to blame someone else for how you are. Although decisions in our formative years are often made for us, there comes a time in our lives when we should and need to be responsible for ourselves.
When we take back responsibility, we can start to introduce healthy boundaries and interactions instead. We must avoid negative people and interact with people who put a positive slant on our lives. If we’re not keen to let go altogether, avoid meeting up with negative people when we’re not so self-assured and when we need more positive interaction.
Once we begin to spend more time with positive people, we will become more attuned to being more positive. Our focus will shift a little so that we see ourselves as being positive and all that being positive brings. We will no longer choose to spend time with those people who bring us down, or bring themselves down.
All that we believe is learned behaviour that we must unlearn and relearn again. It can be done, because I have seen it done. I am part of that scenario.