We live our lives swallowing poison, expecting others to swallow first. We hold on to resentment and upset from other people, as if our lives depended on it and yet it’s us who live with the struggle, why?
But no matter how many things are done to us we are the authors of our experiences, responsible or not, it’s up to us to create our own new experiences. No matter how unfair life is, we can’t change what happens, we can only change our own perceptions on what happens.
Why do we hold on to poison?
We hold on to poison because the identity we’ve calved out for ourselves is better than no identity. We know the feelings associated with the identity we’ve created. We unconsciously apportion blame and will see that as our justification, because that means the other person’s not off the hook.
As we unconsciously continue to tie them into how they’ve made us feel, we unconsciously tie those feelings back into how we can make them feel; as we continue to justify ourselves. We almost hope that what they’ve done to us will also make them struggle. And as we continue to think this way, we’re still shaping both our present and future.
We remain reticent in our thinking because we have something that defines us and that somehow gives us emotional strength. Emotional strength is important but it must be channeled positively and for the right reasons, not simply to discredit others.
To do that we must step into a new version of ourselves, turning poison into nectar, before we drown, simply because we’re intent on bringing others down.