Understanding the past

As a follow-on from previous blogs about our emotions, we know that current behaviour emulates what we have learned from our past, which is why it is even more difficult to make changes in our present.

Opening our minds to all possibilities will help us understand and work through our abilities to understand, we will then find it easier to make the changes we need to make. We must continue to take note of what we think and feel. How our past experiences have shaped us. Understanding those experiences will help us realise how much clutter we accumulate over the years.

Removing mental clutter, helps us clear out all the old thoughts. There are memories in our past that we want to hold on to, but there are also memories that continue to haunt us, that bring about fear, resentment and hurt. Those are the memories we need to deal with and move on from.

It is our attitude and not our experiences that damage us. It’s not what happens to us, but how we choose to be affected by it. As Confucius once said, “To be wronged or robbed is nothing, unless we choose to remember it.”

To give an example, if we know certain foods make us poorly, it’s worth taking those foods out so that we become well again, In the same way we must look at and deal with the thoughts that hurt us.

Our health starts at the point we choose not to carry the hurt anymore.


27 Oct, 2010

4 thoughts on “Understanding the past

  1. I once read that what separates man from beast is the power of self reflection, whether that is a positive or negative power is in how we either learn or suffer with it.

    I am of the impression that we gain closure on the past which consists of refection in a realistic light whilst accepting the result good or bad. It took me a long time to gain the ability to accept people and situations and have true forgiveness if the situation was to my dislike.

    It’s a lifelong work in progress to maintain this in my life but a blessing when I can maintain it.

  2. It’s so hard for some reason to let go of certain things. I guess it’s because it hurt to so bad that it left a lasting impression in my mind. I’m learning and the impression is smoothing out. I know it can’t happen overnight. I’m working on it daily and getting better, thanks to you and your site.

    1. Lisa these things do take time to work through, but the fact that you’re working through some of it and moving yourself into a better place is great.

      Unless we’re already there and know how to live our lives without living in the past, this will be something that we should all work on. It’s part of the human condition.

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