Instinctively, there will always be people who want to reach out, people who will want to understand, people who want to help others, people who nurture other people and there will be those people who want to try and fix other people.
Of course, some of these sentiments are really good and as harsh as it sounds, realistically it’s not our place to try to fix other people, it’s theirs. I wish we could. It’s honourable when we want to share and bring our resources and talents to the table, generously giving our time and attention to helping others, but we can’t turn other people’s lives around, only they can do that.
Because we perceive and manage our lives differently, even if we did try to fix other people, eventually those people would become unfixed. However kind and generous, we forget that even the compassionate must say no. We must never allow our identities to be dependent on someone nearby to nurture or fix.
We must save some of our generous tendencies for ourselves. We must learn to trust that if we can’t fix others, everything will be absolutely fine. Even if we don’t feel it’s fine. Whether we care or not, we have to let go of our own need to fix people.
Like us, other people have to make their own world right and try to fix themselves. They are not for us to fix.