I am sure we have all found ourselves in this situation many times before, but how many of us simply react to something someone says, instead of stepping back to think about what our reaction should be?
Most of the time, reacting to someone’s comment can get us into trouble. We have the ability to think about our thoughts and to take action on those thoughts, but we must always work through the calculated risk of what will happen if we say something, without working through the thought behind it.
Thoughts are fleeting, but a reaction will stay not only with us; but will also stay with the person we react to. A reaction is usually a consequence of something we say to someone whom we feel is either speaking out of turn, saying something that is offensive or making a comment without justification.
When we stop reacting, we take back control of our thoughts in a calm and calculated manner, so that we bring about the best solution for us. We begin to place importance on our thoughts and our integrity; rather than importance on the person making the criticism or remark.
This is never easy to do, but it usually happens around the same kind of people we’re in contact with, time and again. Others who live their lives with so much negativity; often impart some of that negativity on us just by saying something that we know we will end up reacting to.
Sometimes the most important point is that it doesn’t matter what the other person thinks, that’s inconsequential to what we really think or know to be true.
Perhaps we shouldn’t be so quick to act on our instant reactions. Usually when we stand back and think things through we achieve a better outcome, although it’s not something we consciously think about.
Our gut response is always to react back.