Why we should internalise

I’ve never been any different. Ever since I was a small child I’ve always internalised my thoughts, not because I was manic or self-obsessed with things, but because it was my way of understanding my life.

Not everyone who internalises will know how to talk outwardly about how they feel, but I believe it’s a pretty good place to start. I think more of us should do it. Internalising our thoughts allows us to make things right, not only for us and those we share our lives with, but in a world and an environment that can sometimes be less than.

Internalising our thoughts can bring some new understanding. Internalising our thoughts and feelings help us understand everything we need to know about our life, our childhood and in doing so may make our life easier. For me, it was a place I would go to, a place that didn’t judge, a place that was warm and gentle without complication or interference.

Without internalising I would never have gone on to understand why things happened the way they did. The more we internalise, the more we understand, the more we come to terms with and accept, the more we let things go.


13 Mar, 2015

8 thoughts on “Why we should internalise

  1. Far too many people don’t internalise, which means they never really bother looking at themselves and what they’re doing in their lives!

    They just throw everything out there and expect everyone else to blindly follow along. Obviously this is the cause of the majority of the problems in the world.

    I learned how to internalise as a very young child, it was often the only solution since my parents weren’t available in that capacity.

    We didn’t really have family or friends around, so we didn’t have the luxury of having people to depend upon. The biggest problem with this is that we never really learned how to communicate with other people!

    Over time, turning inward was my only safety net! People find it odd that I prefer to spend a lot of time alone, but I grew accustomed to just being with myself.

    It’s a lot easier most of the time than dealing with people. I don’t see myself as ever being an extrovert and I’m OK with that!

    1. Thanks Randy. You’re absolutely right in what you say. It’s when we don’t internalise that we put things out there for other people, not always in a good way. It also means we will never analyse or understand our own lives enough to change the way we do things and change the way we do things and perceive other people.

      I think if more of us did internalise our thoughts, the world would be a much better place. We’d learn routinely to take responsibility for ourselves and would own up more to our mistakes.

      I’m pleased you had that growing up Randy. I know for me it certainly helped.

  2. There’s a safe house within me; a place where I completely receive me unconditionally. It’s like a world within a world and I hibernate there until I’m able to see the blind spots in my understanding and perspective of things.

    I need to take time out from life every so often; it is way too fast and too complicated to consistently go with the flow. I internalize my thoughts and emerge a better person because of it.

    Life can be very relentless and sometimes we need to just back off a little and view the world from a distance.

    1. Thanks Tim. When we internalise our thoughts I believe we come out the other end better people.

      It helps for us to back off a little, so we can reassess. I agree.

  3. I can see why we learn to internalise, especially if we are not brought up in a household that shows by example, any other way.

    I certainly learned to keep things to myself from a very early age and to make decisions independently of those around me and that way I got peace and understanding from myself, so I never sought it from others.

    I know this inherent independence has made it difficult at times; but looking back it was a good thing and I’m getting better at expressing myself as an adult.

    1. When we learn to rationale for ourselves, we put a different slant on our lives and that’s what you’ve managed to do, without the help and support.

      That’s not altogether a bad thing, because we learn to stand on our own two feet and any mistakes we make, they are for you to make, but it does mean we will learn to internalise more.

      I have come to terms with many of my demons through internalising my thoughts, but a balance between parental support and guidance and our inner thoughts is better.

  4. I do internalize my feelings a lot. My daughter on the other hand will just blurt things out.

    I don’t think she internalizes anything. Sometimes it’s embarrassing.

    1. It’s good that you internalise your feelings Lisa. I believe it’s the only way we will come to understand some or part of our lives.

      I think to do it all the time is not only counter-productive and time consuming; but we’d probably drive ourselves mad trying to internalise events that happen in our life; but we have to also be able to live our lives.

      If there is something we need understanding on, internalising our thoughts is the only way I know that brings about understanding.

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