Silver linings

There will be many who will use this time of year to reflect on their year whilst they’re trying to move forward into the New Year. Where I have clarity and understanding about my life, I still need to convince myself on both. Those fleeting thoughts tend to come and go.

My thoughts go to me when I was small, school and opportunities missed to help me because of my physical and mental difficulties and I’m struggling to move on. Although my children are fulfilling their …

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31 Dec, 2011

Being self-critical

Being self-critical stems from our core beliefs, which unless corrected will continue. But how many of us are actually aware that every time we say something, we are self-critiquing? We need to be aware and not take offence when someone tells us that we’re being self-critical and negative about ourselves.

When we grow up surrounded by negativity, it’s not something we will always consciously be aware of, but as we grow and we begin to take more notice of our environment, we will become more …

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30 Dec, 2011

When someone resonates

I believe it makes a real difference when someone can relate and understands what we go through. It happened in a conversation about me having cerebral palsy and being born in the 1960’s. In the 1960’s in the UK, disability was often brushed under the carpet and totally ignored.

It really is a wonderful feeling when someone identifies and resonates with us on what we deal with and reaffirm all the things we’ve had to deal with. It doesn’t change how we cope, but it does make …

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27 Dec, 2011

Why we should reflect

I tend to use reflection as a tool to change aspects of my life so that I get to feel calm. Reflection, when used as a tool helps me understand my life in its entirety.

It’s important for us to reflect to see how we can make improvements and adjustments, so that we continue to grow spiritually and emotionally. Where life is overwhelming, reflection helps us …

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23 Dec, 2011

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Ilana x