Archive | February, 2012

What makes us happy?

29 Feb

This blog is very apt today because it matches my unhappy mood. Do we really know how to be happy, or is happiness something we fleetingly come in and out of?

It’s not always easy to say what makes us happy. Some of us will automatically know, it may take others time to find out. It’s innate, happiness comes from within. If it’s not obvious, we need to …

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Standing up for oneself

28 Feb

As a child I was a people pleaser. I used to go out of my way to please everyone. Looking back, I was looking for acceptance.

It’s what it was at the time, but in hindsight I can see that it didn’t do me any favours. When we work to fit our time into what others ask of us, people will always take advantage or manipulate …

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Interest & commitment

27 Feb

Something inspirational:

“There’s a difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstance permit. When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results.”


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Happy, relaxed and calm

26 Feb

Happy people have low moods, disappointments and problems just as people who have unhappy dispositions do, the only difference is that happy people will adapt more easily so that they deal with their disappointments and low moods swiftly and with good grace.

You only have to observe happy people to see how relaxed and calm they are. They have a relaxed and calm demeanour about them, regardless of what they’re dealing with. Happy people generally …

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Relationships & being judged

25 Feb

When it comes to relationships, I believe we mustn’t feel guilty about decisions we make if it means we’re supporting our emotional wellbeing. There seems to be an element of guilt that continually ties us into our relationships. We find it hard to walk away.

We also think that we will somehow be judged by other people for coming out of those relationships, but it really doesn’t work that way. It’s better to come out, than it is to stay with someone who …

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Cancer treatment choices

24 Feb

How many of us go with decisions that have been made that we don’t agree with, but have no choice but to agree to?

This seems to be the pattern for me and has been for all of my adult life. When it comes to cancer treatments, in terms of pain and suffering I know that my decision for my father not to have …

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Seize the day

23 Feb

Something inspirational:

“Be strong. Be hopeful. Seize the day boldly and shape it to your own ends and never be surprised if it sprouts a hundred different obstacles for you to overcome. Your treasure will never …

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Try new things

22 Feb

Something to ponder:

“Don’t fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have.”


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Dealing with illness

21 Feb

Things are never easy for the one who is terminally ill, or the family dealing with their loved one being terminally ill as my situation has shown. I’m tired and although I am mentally okay with what’s happening, keeping up with it all can be even more tiring.

It’s important to spend as much time with someone who is terminally ill, but I have chosen to focus on both because that’s important too. It would be easy for me to spend every waking moment in …

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Things will change

20 Feb

Something inspirational:

“This is an important lesson to remember when you’re having a bad day, a bad month, or a shitty year. Things will change: you won’t feel this way forever. And anyway, sometimes the hardest lessons to learn are the ones your soul needs most. I believe you can’t feel real joy …

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