Chasing perfection

How many of us validate ourselves by wanting perfection? We look for perfection, convincing ourselves that other areas of our lives will be right when we have it, when in reality we should be seeking to do the opposite.

The idea of a world in which everyone and everything is perfect is nonsensical. I have seen people continue to change things because they want things better than the way they have it. Perhaps we must consciously …

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29 Apr, 2012

The CP Diary & me

The CP Diary is coming up to its second birthday and for me the transition of how it started to where The CP Diary is, for me is phenomenal.

I remember having a conversation with my then web designer who asked me what I was going to do with the site and remember the conversation as if it were yesterday, because he wasn’t sure how or what …

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28 Apr, 2012

A philosophy for life

Something inspirational:

“For attractive lips, speak words of kindness. For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people. For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry. For beautiful hair, let a child run their fingers through it once a day. For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone. People, more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed. Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you will find one at the end of each of your arms. As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself and the other for helping others.”


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27 Apr, 2012

Remaining upbeat

As I try to remain upbeat, I can understand why the brain can easily go into a negative state, given my set of circumstances. There is only so much anyone can handle before everything becomes too much.

The following helps me:

  • Try to develop a spiritual awareness. Being spiritual will help you to remain focused and positive, even when you’re dealing with stressful situations;
  • Listen to music or read books that encourage you to remain upbeat. Read positive quotes and incorporate daily affirmations into your life so that you can continue to think positive;
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26 Apr, 2012

Putting yourself first

As a child, I cared about everyone and everything, regardless of who cared about me. I cared about what other people thought of me, so much so that I became influenced by their suggestions, even though their suggestions weren’t always right for me.

I’d speak and say things to please and gave no consideration to my own voice. I cared too much about doing the right thing …

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25 Apr, 2012

Our reality

Something inspirational:

“Reality is what we take to be true. What we take to be true is what we believe. What we believe is based upon our perceptions. What we perceive depends upon what we look for. What we look for depends upon what we think. What we think depends upon what we perceive determines what we believe. What we believe determines what we take to be true. What we take to be true is our reality.”


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24 Apr, 2012

Thoughts on being happy

As a child, I never thought about whether I was happy or sad. I knew I existed in my life and that my life was my life. I have changed a lot since those early days.

My following suggestions may help:

  • No matter your childhood take responsibility for yourself;
  • Quit blaming others and stop making excuses;
  • Quit trying to avoid change because change needs to happen and it will;
  • Change happens for a reason, look for the reason;
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23 Apr, 2012

Uneasy feelings

Do you wake up with an uneasy feeling in the pit of your stomach when you’re dealing with so many uncertainties? All of my uncertainties are beginning to make me feel uneasy.

Those feelings are bringing about other feelings, which I am now having to deal with. I still have to fight my corner so that I can live my own life, which is something I have always had to do. Some days are a constant …

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22 Apr, 2012

Focus on now

Something inspirational:

“Something wonderful begins to happen with the simple realisation that life, like an automobile, is driven from the inside out, not the other way around. As you focus more on becoming more peaceful with where you are, rather than focusing on where you would rather be, you begin to find peace right now, in the present. Then, as you move around, try new things, and meet new people, you carry that sense of inner peace with you. It’s absolutely true that, “Wherever you go, there you are.”


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21 Apr, 2012

Pre-order my new book

Many thanks
Ilana x