Chasing perfection

How many of us validate ourselves by wanting perfection? We look for perfection, convincing ourselves that other areas of our lives will be right when we have it, when in reality we should be seeking the opposite.

The idea of a world in which everyone and everything is perfect is nonsensical. I have seen people continue to change things because they want things better than the way they have it. Instead, we should consciously …

Read on »
29 Apr, 2012

A philosophy for life

Something inspirational:

“For attractive lips, speak words of kindness. For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people. For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry. For beautiful hair, let a child run their fingers through it once a day. For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone. People, more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed …

Read on »
27 Apr, 2012

Remaining upbeat

Remaining upbeat isn’t always easy. Depending on what we may deal with, there is only so much anyone can handle before everything becomes too much. But it is important to try to remain upbeat.

Through my own experiences of dealing with a family member who is terminally ill, it is important to decide how much we can mentally and emotionally give. Usually a family member’s expectations of the help …

Read on »
26 Apr, 2012

Our reality

Something inspirational:

“Reality is what we take to be true. What we take to be true is what we believe. What we believe is based upon our perceptions. What we perceive depends upon what we look for. What we look for depends upon what we think. What we think depends upon what we perceive. What we perceive …

Read on »
24 Apr, 2012

Thoughts on being happy

As a child, I never thought about whether I was happy or sad. I knew I existed in my life and that was my life. I have changed a lot since those early days.

My following suggestions may help:

  • No matter your childhood take responsibility for yourself;
  • It is important to stop blaming others and to stop making excuses;
  • Change happens even if we try to avoid it;
Read on »
23 Apr, 2012

Uneasy feelings

Do you sometimes wake up with an uneasy feeling in the pit of your stomach when you’re dealing with uncertainties? The uncertainties I deal with are making me feel uneasy.

Those uneasy feelings are bringing about other feelings, which I am now having to deal with. I still have to fight my corner …

Read on »
22 Apr, 2012

Focus on now

Something inspirational:

“Something wonderful begins to happen with the simple realisation that life, like an automobile, is driven from the inside out, not the other way around. As you focus more on becoming more peaceful with where you are, rather than focusing on where you would rather be, you begin to find peace right now, in the present. Then, as you move around, try new things, and meet …

Read on »
21 Apr, 2012

Order my new book

Ilana x