Quiet contemplation

I often use quiet contemplation as a tool to strive for inner peace. Inner peace comes from how I deal with my perceptions. Having peace not only represents our inner perceptions, but how we outwardly deal with our life and the people in it.

Inner peace represents quietness: a quietness that incorporates love and respect that we have for each other, despite our …

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30 Aug, 2012

Emotional patterns

Emotional patterns emerge from our early years and stay etched with us throughout our adult life, until we learn how to change them. I believe different emotional patterns form depending on the different influences and those will bring about different emotional patterns in us.

For example, if someone is overpowering and we don’t know how to react when that person is around us, we may become more submissive. It tends to run in families. How many of us stop to question or …

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29 Aug, 2012

Not stopping to question

As children, we don’t stop to question the decisions our parents make for us. We assume their decisions will be in our best interests, for our own good.

As parents, we can either make decisions for our children based on what we want, or we can make decisions based on our children’s best interests. Early on in parenting and learning on the job, I came to understand …

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27 Aug, 2012

Lashing out

As a child I was less than careful with what and how I used to say things. In my defence I was angry. I didn’t care, but looking back that was not my fault. I had good enough reasons, all those reasons are documented in my Diary.

My mother would often say; ‘if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.’  Many years down the line I find myself taking a similar slant with my own children. Children don’t always think or care how they speak to adults. They often blurt out things …

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25 Aug, 2012

Greener grass

When I look back at what my grandparents had, my generation had more; but in comparison to my children’s generation, as a child I see now that I had very little.

Our grandparents lived the simplistic life without having the opportunities or the lifestyle. I was lucky to have a better lifestyle in comparison, but had very little in the way of opportunities. When I look at …

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24 Aug, 2012