School of life

My mother once told me that we don’t go to school to learn how to be a parent. Although that’s no excuse and is cop-out, I believe the same is true of life.

Generally, we don’t go to school to learn how to deal with life. Even the most amazing childhood doesn’t give us a guarantee. Life has a knack of throwing things at us when we least expect it …

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21 Aug, 2012

Aggressive behaviour

We can all be forgiven for the odd time we get annoyed, but can the same be said for someone who uses aggressive behaviour as a form of communication?

Any aggressive behaviour is worrying, particularly when it becomes destructive. Research has shown that aggressors usually have no regard for other people’s opinions or feelings. They usually first …

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20 Aug, 2012

Missing out

As soon as something different happens and I go through a new experience, whether it’s my own experience or that of a family member,  I begin to think about my own life and what could have been.

I still find it difficult that my choices have never been my own. I never got to experience anything. It’s for these thoughts and thoughts like these to become a focal point, particularly when our …

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18 Aug, 2012

Light relief

It has taken two and a half years for me to get to this point. There have been times where it’s been so difficult for me to see a corner, let alone turn one, but for the first time today, on the back of some very tough issues, I am beginning to see things more clearly.

Some of the other issues still haven’t been fully resolved, bur today we’re celebrating. Claudia is home from her holiday and now has four amazing AS results to go back into school with …

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17 Aug, 2012

Start each day

Something inspirational:

“Start each day by affirming peaceful, contented, and happy attitudes and your days will tend to be pleasant and successful. Such attitudes are active and definite factors in creating satisfactory conditions. Watch your manner of speech then if you wish to develop a peaceful state of mind.”


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16 Aug, 2012


Why do families in general find it necessary to meddle or interfere in each other’s lives? Families usually do it because they care and want to help, but that’s where the similarities end.

It tends to happen between people who are close. From my own experience the closer you are, the more meddling is likely to happen. I believe certain family members do care, but when we begin …

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14 Aug, 2012


Something inspirational:

“Without freedom from the past there is no freedom at all, because the mind is never new, fresh, innocent. It is only the fresh, innocent mind that is free. Freedom has nothing to do with age, it has nothing to do with experience; and it seems to me that the very essence …

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13 Aug, 2012

Positive emotional practices

To be able to deal with our emotions I believe we have to stay in control of our feelings, thoughts and behaviour. When we’re in control of our emotions we’re more likely to feel better about what we deal with, therefore we’ll handle our problems or issues better.

In my formative years I spent my life in contemplation of my own thoughts, so learned from a very early age how …

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12 Aug, 2012