The art of self-compassion

When I look back at my childhood it’s not difficult to see why I was angry. With no choices, and having played no part in my decisions, and living with a disability I didn’t know I had, I went on to live with guilt for many years.

No one should feel they are to blame if they’re not. The art of self-compassion isn’t easy. Where we can extend compassion to ourselves in times when we’re emotionally struggling, we have self-compassion. Without it, it would be easy to continue to apportion blame on ourselves for our past.

By being kinder …

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29 Jul, 2013

Don’t be a scapegoat

Don’t be the scapegoat for something you didn’t do, but if you have done something, then be responsible and accept that you have. Never accept blame for something you didn’t do. Accusations are unjust.

If more than one person is responsible for something that has happened and we’re the one being made the scapegoat, then we must say. We must use what we know to let others know we’re not the one at fault …

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24 Jul, 2013

Assessing circumstances

Something inspirational:

“The question we need to ask ourselves is whether there is any place we can stand in ourselves where we can look at all that’s happening around us without freaking out, where we can be quiet enough to hear our predicament, and where we can begin to find ways of acting that are at least not contributing to further destabilization.”


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23 Jul, 2013

What keeps us stuck

As we journey through life, we accumulate various behaviour patterns, which if we let them, keep us permanently stuck, as those patterns continue to impact our lives.

As a child that thought wasn’t something I was consciously aware of, I also didn’t have enough understanding around my circumstances to give me a clear direction of a way forward. I can see that now. I would …

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22 Jul, 2013

Pre-order my new book

Many thanks
Ilana x