A difficult week

I’ve just left behind a very difficult week dealing with family issues. It is only when I have to deal with family issues that my thoughts go back to other negative issues.

Imagine for 46 years of your life having to live with something you didn’t know you had, then finding out, then having to deal with new thoughts and a new life with a disability you didn’t know you had …

Read on »
29 Sep, 2013

That one person

It’s a normal and comforting thought process to want someone in our lives that extends a comforting arm. It’s a normal and comforting process to want someone in our lives who will tell us they understand what we’re going through and won’t stand in judgment.

It’s a normal and comforting process to know that at some point in our lives that same person will give us the space we need so that we can grow as individuals. It’s that one person we can rely on …

Read on »
27 Sep, 2013

Two-way communication

It is important in any relationship that we get to say what we feel. Whether you’re the child or the parent, the channel of communication should always be open.

Communication doesn’t have to be in the form of criticism and if it’s constructive, the right communication should help everyone understand where they stand. Children should feel confident enough to speak …

Read on »
26 Sep, 2013

The self-righteous

We probably know the type, the self-righteous who won’t listen to anyone and continue to make their lives about them. They defy change.

The self-righteous individuals who are intolerant of the opinions and behaviour of others. Their need to be right far outweighs their need to be civil or kind. They hear, but constantly disagree and will see …

Read on »
24 Sep, 2013

How not to parent

As children, we don’t stop to think what our lives will be like. We assume if decisions are made, they are made with the best of intentions, until of course we begin to understand our lives, how things are, then we understand that too. For some of us childhood is an abject lesson in how not to parent when it comes to our own children. As these problems continue to happen and they invariably do, we must find the resolve to let go.

Read on »
23 Sep, 2013

Forgiving & Letting go

Something inspirational:

“I eventually came to understand that in harboring the anger, the bitterness and resentment towards those that had hurt me, I was giving the reins of control over to them. Forgiving was not about accepting their words and deeds. Forgiving was about letting go and moving on with my life. In doing so, I had finally set myself free.”

ISABEL LOPEZ, Isabel’s Hand-me-down Dreams

Read on »
21 Sep, 2013

Pre-order my new book

Many thanks
Ilana x