Archive | 2014

Make the link

31 Dec

Without making the link between the past and the present, lives will never change and the help we seek through counselling or any other help will have little to no impact.

When we leave the past behind without understanding and then move on, history unfortunately has a point of repeating itself, because nothing changes and as a result we will fail to …

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A new reflection

30 Dec

With two days to go to 2015, I thought I’d use this time to reflect on my year on The CP Diary.

I cannot believe another year has passed and I’m still writing about my experiences, whilst putting my life into context and where it belongs. Since I set up the site just over four and a half …

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A leopard can change

29 Dec

As a small child my mother used to tell me that a leopard can’t change its spots and I grew up believing it until I became an adult. I don’t believe it’s true because I believe people can and do change.

Whilst it’s true we work from well-established patterns, it’s not true that we can’t tweak, modify or alter aspects of those patterns. Anyone can, but we have must be aware. If we continually unconsciously …

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The book of life

28 Dec

Something inspirational:

“In the Book of Life, The answers aren’t in the back.”


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Another bad day

27 Dec

I’ve literally talked myself into getting ill and have failed to stay well. It hasn’t been a particularly stressful day, but whenever I talk too much, my digestion always takes a knock and then I struggle. Illness is never far away. Hoping for a better day tomorrow.

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Black, white and grey

26 Dec

I have never understood why or how all of my thinking is in black and white terms, but have come to learn that many individuals with developmental disability think in this way. It’s how I go about coping with the many scenarios in my life.

Unfortunately that means my life is based around rules and feel uncomfortable when I’m faced with scenarios that aren’t black and white, but grey. I have never been fully aware of why I work …

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A very merry Christmas

25 Dec

Have a lovely Christmas everyone. I hope you have a lovely day with your loved ones.

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Thoughts around Christmas

24 Dec

We’re coming up to that time of year again when we begin to reflect on our lives; what we’ve done and what we haven’t. What we wanted to do but never got round to, what we failed to do because of confidence issues, all those missed opportunities and living with regret.

Perhaps, therefore we should now reflect and use 2015 as another turning point. It doesn’t have to be anything big, but something that will allow us to change the way we perceive our lives so that we have …

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A Nigella Lawson quote

23 Dec

Something inspirational:

“Emotion is messy contradictory and true.”


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Acceptance of others

22 Dec

How many of us are the embodiment of acceptance when it comes to accepting other people?

Perhaps our lack of tolerance comes from unconsciously expecting others to fall into line through our own expectations of them. I never judge and know that having CP has made me more accepting of other people, because I see other people’s struggle through my own …

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