Succumbing to illness

I’ve succumbed to illness again, which I’ve managed to avoid since Christmas, when my family became ill with cold & flu symptoms. A couple of days ago I woke up with a tickle in my throat with a build-up of phlegm that has now gone on to my chest.

As soon as I get a cold, the mucus goes straight to my chest, which I have difficulty expelling and that results in respiratory problems. This chronic illness has been a problem for me for 21 years …

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21 Jan, 2014

Correcting behaviour

If you’re unfortunate to be born into a dysfunctional family where there’s no parent taking responsibility, or one parent’s being given too much responsibility and control over another, it’s easy to see why the cycle might continue with the children.

With dysfunctional families, it’s standard practice for parents to unconsciously delegate roles to their children without realising, so that one child becomes the scapegoat child, another child becomes …

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20 Jan, 2014

The way we see things

“We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are.” – Anais Nin.

How different relationships would be, how much easier our lives would be if we saw things as they are and not how we are, or how we interpret them. Seeing things as we are identifying the wrong scenario to how things really are. We mistake our view of the world with …

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18 Jan, 2014

Unassuming qualities

My grandmother was unassuming. I loved her unassuming personality and that quality in her. There were many other endearing qualities of hers that I embraced. She was happy with her lot and in her own company.

When someone is unassuming, when something big happens in their life, they deal with it in the same unassuming way, but not always in a pro-active, get up and deal with it way, particularly when other people want to …

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17 Jan, 2014

Disappointed with ourselves

How many times have we uttered the words, ‘I’m so disappointed with myself’ and mean every word, because it’s truly how we feel?

It’s something we come to judge in relation to our expectations, when the expectations we put upon ourselves are reasonable, but the circumstances turn out to be less than. If we fail to meet …

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15 Jan, 2014

Sugar is the new tobacco

Following a new study at Liverpool University, food companies are now being told to cut the amount of sugar because sugar is ‘the new tobacco.’

Doctors and academics say levels must be reduced by up to 30 per cent to halt a wave of disease and death. Large amounts of sugar are found in large proportions in the most unlikely foods and drinks. For example, the equivalent of 11 teaspoons are found in a small …

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14 Jan, 2014

Parents & children

Although we sometimes disagree with the way our parents parent us, it’s not something we can change for ourselves, but something we can change for our children.

Being a parent myself, it’s easy to see why my father chose not to encourage or aspire me to do anything with my life. It is also easy to see why he had no real concerns about my welfare, because …

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12 Jan, 2014