Archive | October, 2014

Dealing with hopelessness

31 Oct

I understand too well, can resonate and find it sad when a parent lives with guilt when something happens to their child.

With the passing yesterday of Michael Payne, father of Sarah Payne who was killed some years ago, how within seconds not only does a life change, but a family’s life changes too. With any …

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About courage

30 Oct

Something inspirational:

“Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.”


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29 Oct

I anticipate my next move, not because I’m ready, on the contrary I’m not always even aware at that time what my next move should be, but I know that if I don’t, what I fail to anticipate may blow up in my face and come back to haunt me.

My mum used to say, ‘time and tide wait for no man,’ and she was right. Time or issues don’t wait for us. Unfortunately when we don’t anticipate issues, look ahead on issues we have to deal with …

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Ours not to take

28 Oct

My life woke me up last night. Well certain aspects did anyway, but luckily for me they didn’t wake me up too early!

As I continue to work on my health issues, I also continue to work on the other things too that have the potential to continue to affect my health. Although we often live with the consequences of …

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The conventional view

27 Oct

Something inspirational:

“The conventional view serves to protect us from the painful job of thinking.”


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Challenging our thoughts

26 Oct

I believe we must challenge and continue to challenge our thoughts because that’s the only way we’ll begin to understand life and the way we do things.

It’s not always enough to just run with things without bringing new understanding on those things. It’s only through our understanding that we will learn to see and live our lives …

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Unconscious reckoning

25 Oct

Our unconscious thoughts play their part in our conscious every day conversations. For example, resentment provoked by angry conflicts between two people, will automatically encapsulate into feelings of enmity that go back further than the presenting disagreement …

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Anticipating problems

24 Oct

Something inspirational:

“Dig the well before you are thirsty.”


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Caring less

23 Oct

It mattered to me what other people thought. I was a pleasing child. I cared too much, then I learned it was more important to please myself that in fact I needed to care less.

When we care less that doesn’t mean we care less about the people who are important in our lives, but caring less means letting go of concerns about caring what other people think, about the people who don’t care about us, about the friendships we struggle with and caring …

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Emotions and disability

22 Oct

Disability is enormously difficult for the child with the disability. Not only is disability difficult for the child, but it’s also difficult for the family dealing with a sibling or child who is disabled. I’m not sure how many people consciously stop to think about that concept. We just assume it’s business as usual. Families just get on as the world goes by.

I’m lucky that my CP wasn’t debilitating and that I am able to live a normal life, but emotionally I have come to understand and know what it was like not to talk about or deal with my emotions around …

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