Detaching oneself

When we begin not to care and consciously take the emotions away from a particular person or issue, we take away the element of struggle.

The reason why we struggle and continue to struggle, is because we continue to carry the emotions that attach us to a particular issue or person. When we emotionally stop caring, we give ourselves the ammunition …

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28 Feb, 2015

Old at any age

As a child, I used to think people as they aged were more likely to have old mentalities, but years on I think it’s simply not true. There is no difference between someone being 36 or 60.

We all have the ability to learn, adapt and find new ways to move forward, or we can choose not to. Our mentality and fixed ways of thinking will always play its part in our outlook and disposition. Society is …

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26 Feb, 2015

We create our stress

If someone were to tell you that you are responsible for your own stress, you would probably laugh or shrug it off. You may even get cross, after all who wants to be told they are the reason for their own stress?

How many of us are open to the idea that stress is self-generated? Others will contribute to our stress, and although we don’t have control over their behaviour, we do have control over how we deal …

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25 Feb, 2015

Health consequences

When we’re constantly juggling our lives around stress, we will fail to deal with our issues, will fail to eat properly, will fail to look after our health, as we continue to spiral into what seems like a permanent emotional rut, with no motivation to pull ourselves out of it.

No one else is responsible for us and it’s nobody else’s fault if we get ill. As we continue to blame everyone and everything for the rut, we will fail to get a grip and will fail to take control. But it takes a …

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23 Feb, 2015

About true friends

It’s said true friends can go long periods of time without speaking and still never question the friendship. A true friend implies the presence of the deepest connection, so why would anyone with those connections choose to go long periods of time without connecting?

It is important for anyone who wants to have true friends, to be a true friend. Going long periods without speaking to someone we care about, isn’t a true friend. A true friends’ priority would always be to …

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22 Feb, 2015

Gentle reminders

Through our struggles and our children’s success, there will always be gentle reminders that serve to reinforce our own lack of success. Through our vision for our children, those reminders will stir up negative thoughts on what we didn’t achieve.

So, how do we move on so that we don’t go back to negative thoughts about our own accomplishments? To do that we must learn and understand why things didn’t happen for us, so that we’re not beginning …

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20 Feb, 2015

Order my new book

Ilana x