Truth & anger

It’s amazing how the truth only ever seems to come out when we’re angry about something. It seems to happen every time.

Anger is the catalyst for expressing uncomfortable truths and emotions that are already there, bubbling under the surface. It’s often used as an excuse to say what we feel, but done in the most inappropriate …

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30 Jul, 2015

Wellness & illness

Being a premature second twin and having cerebral palsy would always mean problems with reflux and digestion. Even though I am careful with my lifestyle, it is still easy for me to get caught out. That’s par for the course.

I’m not as ill as I used to be, but it still makes living a normal life difficult. I find it difficult to plan meals that work for me, and plan ahead. I have to make sure I have little stress through the day, because …

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27 Jul, 2015

We are people first

We are people first before our wants and needs. Even though I didn’t know about my disability or what my needs were, I mattered. It was important I was able to say what I felt. We must talk about the things that matter.

And just because people may have what seems like a happy upbringing, doesn’t mean they won’t struggle with mental health, or have their own set of needs. Even the happiest people will struggle with their …

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26 Jul, 2015

Leading by example

Through confidence, we set the standards for ourselves, for our families. Through confidence, we demonstrate what we believe in and what we know, through many positive examples. We lead by example, we show others our way of doing things.

Through positive examples, we build trust and through trust we let others know that we stand by our word. We’re respectful of others, we’re also open-minded on what others have to say. We’re happy to …

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24 Jul, 2015

Taking sides

I’m not sure it matters whether you’re the child, the parent, or the grandparent. It’s wrong to take one person’s opinion over another. It’s not something families stop to consciously think about, or stop doing. It’s there and is something that still, continues to be part of the family scenario.

Unless we learn to do things differently, we will always take sides and sitting on the fence shouldn’t be an option. If parents do it …

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23 Jul, 2015

My lost years

I’ve been watching a few tear-jerking episodes of Davina McCall and Nicky Campbell’s ‘Long-Lost Family’ series and although I haven’t missed out on knowing my family, not knowing that I had cerebral palsy, makes me feel that part of my own life has been lost.

There is a large chunk of my life that I shall never get back, living with a disability I didn’t know I had. My frustrations, my anger, being blamed so many times for my anger. Wanting to know what was wrong …

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22 Jul, 2015

Pre-order my new book

Many thanks
Ilana x