Unconscious conditioning

Even though we will spend a large proportion of our lives being unconsciously conditioned, we should apply common sense on how we conduct ourselves. Unconscious conditioning shouldn’t be an excuse for not thinking about and applying common sense to all our relationships.

We use our past as a get out clause for how we conduct ourselves presently. How others behave, doesn’t give us the right to treat others in the same way, through unconscious conditioning. Instead, we …

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31 Aug, 2015

Being prepared

It’s true that our formative years don’t always prepare us for the life we have yet to come, particularly if we haven’t had the support, but through maturity and emotional growth, I believe we can adapt.

My sensory issues (‘SPD’) are part of the equation and compound my problem. Some of the bigger issues, which would seem pretty straightforward to someone else, blow up ten fold and make what I deal with …

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29 Aug, 2015

Trust & deceit

Someone contacted me through my website, asking for advice on trust and deceit, so I thought I’d write a blog about it. I hope this helps.

Trust is the foundation on which relationships are based. Without trust, there is no relationship and where someone’s trust is broken, deceit usually follows. When we come to know one, it’s only a matter of …

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28 Aug, 2015

How to feel happy

There’s often a misconception about being happy. Being happy isn’t about making other people happy. We don’t just become happy, because we make other people happy.

Being happy is a state of mind, which we very rarely achieve. Being happy isn’t also about others accepting us. We need to accept ourselves first, before we can even think about how to feel happy. To be …

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26 Aug, 2015

The universal truth

Some of us will live a life in denial on what are the universal truths. A human failing but it doesn’t have to be. Perhaps we’re in denial because speaking the truth will open wounds that are better left unopened.

Perhaps we’re also embarrassed of what other people will think, perhaps we’re struggling to come to terms with a particular issue and we’d rather not say, or perhaps we know we’re doing something …

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25 Aug, 2015

Learn to reconcile

When we understand there isn’t anything, we could have done to change our circumstances, we will find acceptance, but for some of us that’s not easy.

We spend too many years wishing our lives were different, know there’s nothing we could have done to change it, but still we continue to wish. To be aware of our circumstances is to reconcile. We need to …

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24 Aug, 2015