Our internal workings

Our emotions have everything to do with our internal workings. Unless we deal with our emotional cognitive framework, which comprises our emotional understanding of the world, other people and ourselves, what we try to achieve will never work.

We can never expect to make headway, make important decisions without dealing with our emotions first. It is our emotions that govern our behaviour, how we communicate, what we think about …

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29 Sep, 2015

Another revelation

There isn’t a day go by, where I’m not having to piece something together based on my Cerebral Palsy diagnosis. Often from nowhere, a conversation will bring a new understanding into the equation and that’s another piece of the jigsaw fixed.

Listening to a friend talking, whose son has learning difficulties, it dawned on me that everything she was saying about him, she was talking about me too. His difficulties were also mine. That I also …

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28 Sep, 2015

A question of spite

I was an angry child, but I wasn’t malicious or spiteful, nor did I have a desire to hurt, or be mean to anyone. Underneath the exterior, was a kind and caring child that was angry and who desperately needed support.

I have known people in my life, do spiteful things, who are malicious. It’s hard to believe why anyone would go out of their way to inconvenience or emotionally harm other people, and why some people seem …

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26 Sep, 2015

Choosing to act

Choose to act. Don’t wait until the mood feels right. If you manage to act and you’re still not in the right mood, don’t give up when you’re only part way through.

We owe it to ourselves to finish what we started. Don’t get stuck, or spiral into what could be a very long rut. Ask yourself why you feel stuck and be honest, instead of coming up with the same excuses …

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25 Sep, 2015

Thinking to fail

On average, we talk ourselves into thinking we’re going to fail, more than we think we’re going to succeed and continue to live our lives like that.

It takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile, but smiling has more benefits than frowning, so why not smile anyway? Perhaps there’s a different way we can look at failing then. Failing gives us our …

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23 Sep, 2015

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Ilana x