Archive | 2016

A reflection, 2016

31 Dec

It’s that time of year again where I get to reflect on my year with the Diary. I still can’t believe the Diary is into its 7th year. It’s been a busy year for the Diary and as we look to 2017 we must continue to open our minds to life’s possibilities and how we can emotionally continue to make our lives better.

As 2017 is in sight and my blogs continue to be my self-help tool, the Diary continues to be my focus. Away from my family, my site has become my primary focus, a pleasant distraction. It …

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People pleasing

30 Dec

We will always open ourselves up to others taking advantage, particularly when we’re asked to do something and we never say no, when we try to please people. People pleasing means we open ourselves up to others taking advantage, particularly when we’re asked to do something and we never say no.

As a form of acceptance we do it. Of course, when we eventually say no and we start to put ourselves first, the tone from the other camp can easily change. A little condescending and standoffish …

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A Carol Ryrie Brink quote

29 Dec

Something inspirational:

“The most truly generous persons are those who give silently without hope of praise or reward.”


In dedication of George Michael

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A lingering childhood

28 Dec

There are those who go out of their way to blame their parents or siblings for how their lives turn out. Others may not intentionally set out to blame, but may still be affected by their childhood.

Regardless of our upbringing, perhaps there’s little point in harbouring resentment, because we don’t get to change our upbringing Wallowing in our own misery, will only serve to make …

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We choose what we see

27 Dec

Perception doesn’t record reality, perceptions record what we want to see in the way we want to see. We see what we want to see.

How it all works

Our mind constructs how we choose to see the world. Perceptions depend on our own assumptions of what we think and how we see things. We all have a different take on what we see, then …

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Dealing with trauma

26 Dec

It’s not possible to go through life without knowing what you deal with and not have any trauma attached to the not knowing.

And whilst we know there is a link between emotions and ill-health, lifestyle also contributes to that scenario. If we’re never encouraged to express how we feel, we will never talk about the things …

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A Christmas Message

25 Dec

Something inspirational:

“Take time during the rush of the holidays to enjoy the things in life that really matter. Take in the serene moments spent with friends and loved ones, and may the wonder of Christmas surround you throughout the holiday season.”

Please let’s also remember those who aren’t with their loved ones today. Happy Holidays everyone.

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Parental & sibling alientation

24 Dec

In one of my previous blogs I have spoken about parenting, but wanted to extend my blog further to talk about parental and sibling alienation. Both are more common than we think or understand and form part of the family scenario.

Parental and sibling alienation is very real and has been around for many years. It involves the programming of a child by one parent, who attempts to denigrate; interfere and undermine the child’s …

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Holiday Hotcake with Eggnog

23 Dec

Holiday Hotcake with Eggnog

This wonderful recipe synonymous with Christmas is taken from Nigella Express. 


    1 cup plain flour

    1½ cups light brown sugar …

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Call a spade a spade

22 Dec

As a child, after a while I learned not to talk about my feelings because there was no point, but I do now through my blog. I see it as a necessity.

I call a spade a spade. I describe things as they really are. With me, all scenarios are either black or white, there are no grey areas. How we see things is important, but how we express ourselves …

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