Turning our backs

The hard part is knowing when it’s time to turn your back on someone or something. There are two trains of thought here. Understanding what we’re turning our backs on and when it’s time to give up.

If it’s someone you’re struggling with and have been for some time and they are making you stressed and ill, then it’s right and necessary you walk away. No one should have to settle for abusive …

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31 Jan, 2016

Non-recognised milestones

I have come to realise that not only did I miss out on my milestones growing up, because my learning wasn’t normal, milestones associated with adolescence, maturity and the emotions one associates with milestones, I also struggled to reach.

The bad part is that the part of my brain, which is damaged is the part that controls the emotions, everything from what I feel to what I think, to my understanding of what I feel. It is the emotions that are …

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30 Jan, 2016

A common-sense approach

A common-sense approach to what we deal with is common sense. Based on the approach we take, it’s the standing back, it’s the voice in our head that tells us to listen. By listening to our thoughts, we do what makes common sense for us, to sort our problems out.

Life has a way of throwing a curve ball, but we must learn to fix what we can, even if the curve ball isn’t initially ours. There is no point in us continuing to blame others for things we end up having to deal …

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28 Jan, 2016

A bad attitude

It doesn’t matter what we say, or how conciliatory, kind or compassionate we are towards other people, there will always be someone we come across, who thinks it’s acceptable to have a bad attitude.

Those with a bad attitude will always assume there is something wrong with other people, but never with themselves. Any problem they have is usually down to someone else. They’re not willing to …

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25 Jan, 2016

Fix things

I used to know someone who instead of trying to fix his problems, would spend his time constantly moaning about them. Personally, I can’t see the attraction.

I have never come to understand why some people would choose to spend so much time and energy moaning, when they could fix the same problem in half the time. Am I missing something, but what’s the …

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24 Jan, 2016

Ignoring good advice

As a child I was always being told what to do. What I was given wasn’t as much a guide as a demand. As an adult I’ve often wondered, why people who are genuinely given good advice, often choose to ignore it?

The world over, we routinely sabotage ourselves by refusing to take good advice when it’s given to us. According to a study from Pennsylvania University, the things we think about just before we receive …

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22 Jan, 2016

Pre-order my new book

Many thanks
Ilana x