We think we know

Do we ever know someone, I mean really know someone? Perhaps it’s the people we think we know the most that we don’t know at all. There is a difference between knowing someone and knowing about them.

And we never can know someone unless we work from the soul. The soul is the key to how we respond with each other. It’s the soul that guides and directs our behaviour and actions in the physical …

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30 Apr, 2016

Regaining control

It’s always bad to invest our energy and get hooked on the wrong things that make us lose sight and control. The good part is that to regain control over our personal lives isn’t as hard as we think.

Losing control means we’re powerless to regain control and that usually happens when we leave issues for too long. We tend to leave things too long because we tell ourselves the problem will correct …

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29 Apr, 2016

Choosing not to care

It is important we care, but it is not always important to care. There is a difference. We spend our lives caring, but caring only works when someone we care about, cares about us.

We concern ourselves over the people who care less about us. We spend a lifetime trying to fit into people’s lives, trying to conform, just so they will care. It’s possible that when we stop caring for those who …

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27 Apr, 2016

Becoming self-absorbed

There are many reasons why we become self-absorbed and it’s usually at a time when we’re stressed and not sure how to deal with things. Only caring about and being interested in ourselves, in our own thoughts and in our own interests.

What changes us is how our lives are channelled through nurture and our experiences, it is those things that often change us. Through our issues we learn a different way to be. Instead of …

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26 Apr, 2016

Willpower & determination

Willpower is essential if we are to achieve, overcome and succeed, so why do we fail at the willpower thing? What is it about willpower that has a tendency to stop us in our tracks, just when we need it the most?

Leading research led by Roy Baumeister, Professor of Psychology at Florida State University, believes willpower is like a muscle and like any muscle, when it is exercised in the short term it can lead …

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25 Apr, 2016

Growing pains

The things I didn’t like growing up, were the fact that I had one leg shorter than the other, a club foot and very little muscle tone on my left side, which left my left side very weak, part of the Cerebral Palsy scenario that I didn’t know I had. I also didn’t like the fact that I was lopsided when I was standing straight.

Going through adolescence was no different. Because I didn’t recognise any of my milestones I missed out on noticing the changes we all go through when we reach that stage. Although that part …

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22 Apr, 2016

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