Archive | 2017

Protect, not scar

24 Apr

It’s a parent’s job to protect us, not scar us. From experience, where parents set out to protect their children, they may end up scarring them instead.

Crossed words, raised voices, strong undercurrents and undertones, all create emotional scarring, particularly if they’re continually being used. We use sarcasm, we lash out, use words that attack, undermine, pull downs, unkind comments, being neglectful and the patterns continue.

Scars run deep, but for some children they run deeper. Depending on how severely a child will suffer, …

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The use of quotes

23 Apr

I’m no stranger to quotes. I use them on my site and on social media too. I love quotes because they incorporate people’s truth and make others think about their lives, where they are. They resonate with us, they’re fantastic at bringing our thoughts into focus, allowing us to continue to think about our wants and needs.

They help shape our thinking and can also bring clarity and understanding into the equation, where we may not have either, but there is also a down side to them as well. Quotes only work if we …

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Choosing words carefully

22 Apr

Something inspirational:

“Words rich in meaning can be cheap in sound effects.”


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Using mediation

21 Apr

Although mediation is usually involved and refers to an intervention in a dispute to resolve that dispute, I also believe there’s a different explanation that works in life too. Mediation is an intervention in a process or relationship and should work in families too.

Families don’t always use mediation as a tool. We offer an opinion, the opinion isn’t accepted then we fall out or walk away, depending on what comes first. Mediation should be used as a tool between two people to bring a discussion or opinion to a conclusion, without having …

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Helping change attitudes

20 Apr

The CP Diary will be 7 on the 17th May 2017, into its 8th year. I hope that in 7 years, my blogs and my experiences are helping to change attitudes, attitudes on how we choose to deal with ourselves, attitudes towards our lives and attitudes towards each other.

I hope that through my blog, I have shown that attitudes can change that we can all help change attitudes. That we can come full circle. That just because we start off in one place, doesn’t mean we have to stay in that place. That with the right support and the right people around us, we …

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Differing opinions

19 Apr

Because we’re all a product of our own individual experiences and upbringings, it’s only natural that our opinions will differ on a whole range of topics and the more our opinions differ, the less accepting we will be on other people’s opinions.

Of course, there is a train of thought that the world would be a dull place if we were all the same, but it is the incredible diversity that can make our world such a fascinating place, but it’s up to us …

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A Roy T Bennett quote

18 Apr

Something inspirational:

“Success is not how high you have climbed, but how you make a positive difference to the world.”

ROY T BENNETT, The Light in the Heart

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The fuller picture

17 Apr

It’s only when someone is no longer in our lives that we come to understand the relationship we had with that person.

It’s also when that person is no longer in our life that we can fully equate how our lives turned out and how in hindsight there would have been lots we would have liked to change, but couldn’t …

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Beginners’ exercise guide/2

16 Apr

Knowing where to begin when it comes to starting an exercise regime can be difficult. This is the second part to my blog last month on ‘A beginners’ exercise guide.’

What types of exercise are better for weight loss?

For weight loss, you should choose endurance activities such as jogging, aerobics, cycling, rowing or swimming. This type of exercise should be carried out at a moderately intense level and …

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New opportunities

15 Apr

I’ve previously written a blog about the fact that our lives are mapped out from the minute we’re born. But even so, it’s important to understand that through our lives, we will come across opportunities that will be obvious to those of us who are adept at reading between the lines, but for those of us who aren’t, it doesn’t mean we can’t learn.

Until something happens to change our course, our life is mapped out. We follow a path set out for us, in some cases without being able to digress. We’re also not expected to argue or fall foul of those …

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