Bringing understanding

We can’t erase the memories, but through our understanding and finding a place for those memories, we free ourselves of the bitterness. The memories brought about through other people’s actions are then remembered as a valuable lesson.

Letting go will never cancel out another person’s actions or the frustrations we have, but freeing ourselves of the bitterness attached to those actions, helps us bring about an understanding we didn’t have …

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29 Apr, 2017

Some early memories

I am lucky that I when I look back I remember conversations and experiences as if they happened yesterday, which is why the Diary works. My father walking behind me when we went out for walks telling me to stop dragging my leg and to pick my foot up.

All our walks seemed to be conducted in this way. It amazes me how I managed to brush the whole thing off with just a shrug and a comment, but that wasn’t without its difficulties. I remember getting angry …

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27 Apr, 2017

Look to change

Throughout our lives, we may emotionally struggle. We’ve probably been insecure at one point, had low self-esteem, lacked a little confidence, but we should still want to put things right for others: the world needs more of it.

When how we feel and cope begins to interfere with how we behave, then we must look to change how we deal with things. We should want to care. Life shouldn’t be about digging our heels, putting others in …

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25 Apr, 2017

The use of quotes

I’m no stranger to quotes. I use them on the Diary and on social media too. I love quotes because they incorporate people’s truth and make others think about their lives, where they are in their lives.

They resonate with us, they’re fantastic at bringing our thoughts into focus, allowing us to continue to think about our wants and needs. They also help shape our thinking and bring clarity and understanding …

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23 Apr, 2017

Using mediation

Although mediation is involved and refers to an intervention in a dispute to resolve disputes, there is a different explanation that works in life too. Mediation is an intervention in a process or relationship and should work in families too.

Not many families use mediation. They offer an opinion, the opinion isn’t accepted then they fall out or walk away, depending on what comes first. Mediation should be used as a tool between two people to …

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21 Apr, 2017

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Ilana x