A measure of success

When we can’t see, or equate how we feel with how others have made us feel, then we know we’re emotionally damaged. It would go on to take me many years to see or understand that I was.

It took countless guilt trips, until one day the penny dropped that the guilt I’d been carrying for all those years, wasn’t mine to carry. That our environment and the people in it, affect the way we feel about …

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21 Jul, 2017

Brain Exercises

Exercises aren’t just about what we do physically. It’s also important we also exercise the Brain.

Most of us live our lives in a series of fixed routines. It simplifies life and it lets us perform complex tasks with little mental effort. These routines are run by our subconscious and require very little …

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20 Jul, 2017

Emotional trauma

A child who witnesses or experiences emotional or physical abuse, or struggles through neglect, will often show signs of trauma as an adult. Dealing with any type of abuse means we will be affected, whether we realise we are or not. Emotional trauma escapes no-one.

Children will begin to evaluate what everything means out of the events they witness and in doing so, we create an internal map of how our world looks to us. If a child has the love and support they’re supposed to have, their internal map will look and feel normal, but sadly not all …

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18 Jul, 2017

Relationships & disability

Anyone like me with a brain impairment means we are disabled, however small. There’s no getting away from that. It stands to reason therefore, that my life would turn out differently, when I eventually got to find out, because I’m tied to a brain injury that has led to impairment. That through my impairment, I would struggle and all relationships would need a different understanding.

Knowing I had Cerebral Palsy as a child would have meant that I could talk about my symptoms and issues with those who needed to know. With any relationship, it’s important to start off level pegging …

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17 Jul, 2017

Our fairy tale lives

Having a positive sense of self can and is to be our own fairy tale ending. But to have that we must choose to look behind our relationships at ourselves and be prepared to work at and incorporate emotional and spiritual growth into the equation. Sadly, relationships can’t and don’t give us the fairy tale ending.

I’ve had to fight to exist in my life, to find things out, to bring reasoning back into the equation. Therefore, perhaps fairy tales don’t exist, or if they do maybe not in the way we think. The concept sounds idyllic, but reality …

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16 Jul, 2017

Our psyche

Because much of our thinking and behaviour is driven by our attitudes, habits, beliefs and assumptions that are so deep in our psyche, we’re not fully aware what those are or that we know about them. But even as a small child, around my environmental issues, I was aware of a greater force at play that was driving my negative thoughts, but I didn’t know what it was.

What is our psyche?

The psyche is the totality of the human mind, conscious and unconscious. It represents one of the fundamental concepts for understanding human nature from a scientific point of view. The psyche is the …

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14 Jul, 2017


With yet another Celebrity passing through suicide recently, I felt compelled to write about it. For us to lose someone close is difficult, but to lose someone to suicide can leave us numb and in shock.

I have been touched by someone who committed suicide and although grief is a normal response to us losing someone important or close to us, when we lose someone through suicide it makes the …

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12 Jul, 2017