Humble beginnings

We know and understand our background and roots, but we’re embarrassed, we choose to deny all knowledge, or that it was our existence.

If more of us were more accepting of our roots, we’d be living better lives, communicating better and feeling better about family and about ourselves. Whilst we don’t see our roots in a positive light …

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29 Sep, 2017

Learning to listen

We listen on our own terms. We listen, not to understand or to hear, but to jump at the opportunity for us to speak again, whether that means agreeing to what’s being said, or by putting in our penny’s worth.

We take conversations the way we want them to go. It’s all about us. But perhaps we should be thinking about our connections and how when we superficially listen and how we superficially connect. When we …

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28 Sep, 2017

Sticks and stones

As a child growing up with anger issues centred around my physical and emotional issues, it was easy for others to blame me for something they did.

If like me growing up you got blamed and weren’t always believed, it’s possible that you would always continue to struggle. My mum would often recite the ‘sticks and stones may break my bones …

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26 Sep, 2017

Recognising our feelings

Not many of us use introspection, but by observing our own mental and emotional processes, we will start to recognise our thoughts and feelings. We will then begin to recognise the feelings that are making us unhappy.

We can increase our wellbeing by accepting that we may have negative feelings. By accepting we may be feeling unhappy …

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24 Sep, 2017

I was angry, not bitter

The neglect, my emotional and physical difficulties and not knowing I had Cerebral Palsy made me angry as a child and years on I’m still having to work through my symptoms.

If I wasn’t angry, I wouldn’t have been normal. My anger made me a scapegoat for everything. It was easy to blame me because I was the angry child. It also made it more plausible that I would be to blame …

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22 Sep, 2017

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