Making assumptions

It’s dangerous to assume or make assumptions about anyone. The fact that we take for granted or presuppose something about someone means we’ve already decided those things are true, before we have thought the situation through again.

How do assumptions work?

Assumptions are part of a belief system we believe are true. Those assumptions are then used by us to interpret the world around us. We justify our reasoning behind the assumptions we make and …

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20 Oct, 2017

White or wholegrain bread?

I’ve always been told and gone with the fact that wholegrain has to be better than white bread. For those of us interested in health, the results of a recent new study comparing the health effects of white bread versus wholegrain sourdough bread are very interesting indeed.

The study compared the effects of consuming white bread for one week, followed after a break by consuming wholegrain sourdough for one week, or vice versa. Those taking part in the study were asked to …

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19 Oct, 2017

An emotional vacuum

No one’s childhood is perfect. I am sure when we all look back there will be something we aren’t happy with, or would look to change.

Having lived in an emotional vacuum for some 46 years, it’s something I’m finding difficult to come to terms with. Out of all my issues, this is the biggest issue I’m finding difficult to come to terms with …

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16 Oct, 2017

Speaking out of turn

If we’re going to speak out, say what we feel, we must say it loud enough for others to hear, to express an opinion on the things that matter to us, on the things we care about.

It’s perfectly acceptable to say something and that’s different to speaking out of turn. But where does one start and the other end and speaking out of turn, is that really how it is? Or is it that where …

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15 Oct, 2017

Correcting attitudes

The uncertainty of what’s currently going on in the UK, in the States and in the wider world, forces us to rethink our mood, our lives, our families and makes what we get to deal with even more uncertain. Where things could change things and us be supportive, that’s clearly not happening.

On the back of what’s happening, I try not to watch or listen to what’s going on in the news. With yet more uncertainties, I don’t want to hone in on more than I have to deal with. The news has …

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14 Oct, 2017

Staying truthful & honest

I don’t see the point of not being honest about our experiences. What we experience is what we experience. Not being honest or recounting our experiences differently, doesn’t help us. It also won’t change the experience or outcome.

In some respects being honest can make life easier, potentially harder in others. Easier because others see our struggles and know they’re not alone and harder; because we have nowhere …

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12 Oct, 2017