A question of respect

This was on my mind today. Something I come back to because I was told by someone close to me many years ago that he demanded respect and I told him that respect was supposed to be earned that it wasn’t something we’re entitled to have just because we demand it.

That just because someone is older than we are, doesn’t mean they automatically deserve to have our respect. Doesn’t respect depend on the relationship and what the other person brings to the relationship? Doesn’t it also depend on the circumstances and whether that person deserves …

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18 Mar, 2018

Prejudice about disability

When you have a disability it’s never far away from you emotionally. It’s not something you get to shake off easily either.

But for others living with us, embarrassment would be a good adjective to use and is potentially the reason why there is still a stigma around disability. In the 1960’s when I grew up, disability wasn’t …

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17 Mar, 2018

More layers to the jigsaw

Revealing yet more layers on my Cerebral Palsy diagnosis brings about new and unwanted thoughts. I wake up with thoughts about the process of how I got to this place and know deep down I’m not done yet. Not only was my ‘foot drop’ not referred to in any of my medical notes, but I have now learned that I have it because of a difference in leg length and a paralysis.

I have always known about the leg length difference. The paralysis I didn’t know about, but it does tie in with having no muscle mass or working muscle on my affected side. I have never …

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16 Mar, 2018

Historic family issues

Historic family issues are what keeps families separate. It doesn’t matter the upbringing or the issues unless those circumstances are satisfactorily resolved or addressed, families emotionally will never stay together.

Perhaps that’s part of what a dysfunctional family is. A family in which conflict, abuse and misbehaviour on the part of a parent occurs regularly, leading other family members including children …

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14 Mar, 2018

Changes along the way

Nothing in my life was ever going to change unless I changed and that’s pretty much how things worked out. If there are problems around our parents that won’t change until they choose to change. It’s the children who must change.

We will always live the life we live unless we understand ‘the life thing.’ The nature of how we are and how we think is responsible, but as my story shows there is a way around that. I could have …

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13 Mar, 2018

My greatest success

I consider that finding out about myself and what I was dealing with that I never imagined I would know this side of life and starting The CP Diary are part of my personal success.

I set up my own secretarial business putting my office and admin skills to good use. I did that for a couple of years and it was enormously successful. But by far, my biggest success has been …

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12 Mar, 2018

Reflux & trigger foods

I’ve written a little about Reflux but wanted to elaborate further because having struggled with it myself for many years, it’s important a little more about it. It’s easy to brush it off as nothing but it’s actually quite dangerous if left untreated.

Reflux isn’t something we’re aware of it until we have it and then we’re not always sure what it means. For the majority of us, Reflux becomes part of our lifestyle choices through our diet …

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10 Mar, 2018