Breaking the cycle of abuse

Abuse and the cycle of abuse will always continue unless the cycle is broken. But often the root of abuse is deeply embedded in the inequalities of culture and sex roles, roles that we don’t ever think about in that way, but that have the potential to cause abuse in families.

The levels of violence in society also affect the level of violence in families. When society becomes threatened for example, in times of high unemployment, social deprivation, poor quality …

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31 May, 2018

Sensory awareness issues

This issue has been a longstanding concern and as a consequence has been a very hard blog to write. Unbeknown to me and because I didn’t know I had sensory awareness issues as a child, or anxiety brought about through sensory awareness issues.

My earliest recollection of how this manifested itself, was when we were on holiday and the first thing mum did for me, was look in the bathroom. I had no idea why I struggled with bathrooms, or why …

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29 May, 2018

Left in the dark

I often wonder how anyone could ignore the very thing that would bring answers to someone who was left to emotionally fend for herself for 46 years and continue to justify that it was still okay for that person not to know.

I seem to go back to this thinking every time. But there isn’t a day go by where I don’t think about and struggle to come up with anything that could possibly justify this behaviour. What makes it worse …

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27 May, 2018

Siblings coming together

The hardest part for any child is to watch a parent work through a terminal illness. Growing up, we think our parents are indestructible that they’re going to be around forever. It’s also hard if as a child, you haven’t had the best of relationships with that parent.

But as children no matter the relationship, we’re expected to do our bit for our parents when the time comes, but children will always have their own reasons for the way they play things. When that time …

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25 May, 2018

My symptoms made simple

This particular blog is the closest I’ve got to explaining how my particular brain damage works. It’s not been an easy journey, but with the relevant help from Neurologists and a new understanding over the 8 years I have been writing, I understand more.

The frontal lobe section, known as the ‘emotional centre’ is the part of my brain that is extensively damaged. Generally, it is the place where our emotions are controlled and where our personalities are formed …

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24 May, 2018

Control, neglect & abuse

When we go through any type of abuse, psychologically we become different people. Sadly, abuse runs through the generations and in families. Children who are subjected to abuse, tend to have to adapt to their environment.

When I was growing up it was generally accepted that children were young enough to adapt to their circumstances, children were resilient, we bounced back, but given my own ‘story’ I certainly …

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23 May, 2018

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Ilana x