There’s a certain nastiness

Pick up a newspaper, or turn on the t.v. and what’s happening in the world today has changed completely. There seems to be no sense of decency or priority. What happened to common decency, wanting to do right by others?

When actor Robert De Niro spoke at the Tony Awards in New York City, June 10, 2018 that wasn’t about him. He was making a point because he felt threatened and that’s what we do when we feel threatened …

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30 Jun, 2018

Feeling irritated

Although subconsciously I always wanted to know what was wrong with me, up until mum became terminally ill I never consciously thought about it. Perhaps I had already resigned myself to the fact that I knew it wasn’t an option, whilst my circumstances remained the same.

As a child, I assumed my family didn’t know my diagnosis; that none of us had any answers. I wasn’t angry because of a non-diagnosis, I was angry because my disability was ignored as I continued to struggle …

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29 Jun, 2018

Accepting disability

There is information out there now on just how more work needs to be done to bring disability into the 21st century and for it to find a place in society. But for me, disability still doesn’t go far enough. It’s never far from my mind.

In the 1960’s when I was born, there was very little reference to disability. You’d have had to scan very carefully through Britain’s law books to find any mention. Except for mentions around compensation claims …

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28 Jun, 2018

A Jason Mraz quote

Something inspirational:

“Transformation is my favorite game and in my experience, anger and frustration are the result of you not being authentic somewhere in your life or with someone in your life. Being fake about anything creates a block inside of you. Life can’t work for you if you don’t show up as you.”


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27 Jun, 2018

Getting a grip on anxiety

Not knowing I struggled with anxiety throughout my childhood years is the hardest thing I’ve had to come to terms with, knowing why has made it all the worse, because it’s something I know I will always struggle with.

Although being aware that I deal with anxiety helps to some degree, there is still concern that I have to fit into other people’s expectations of how they think I should deal with it. Where my sensory …

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25 Jun, 2018

The value of positive emotions

Having lived through experiences I wouldn’t want others to have experienced and not having the emotional support, I know and understand the beneficial psychological effects of talking about how we feel.

Psychology has turned its attentions to researching and looking into negative emotions and negative effects and how those can bring about depression, anger and stress. If a condition like depression is …

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24 Jun, 2018

The counselling scenario

Going into counselling when you have no idea what’s wrong with you doesn’t help you understand your life, let alone make for a productive counselling session.

Counselling was never going to work for me, because the very thing I needed to know that tied my life together had been kept secret for 46 years. Truth be known, every conversation, every session I …

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22 Jun, 2018

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